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by cyan
Mon Jul 14, 2008 10:40 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Are asexuals more likely to be bi?
Replies: 8
Views: 4058

Re: Are asexuals more likely to be bi?

I selected 'opposite-sex' because, like Dargon (except reversed), all two people I've been seriously attracted to in my life have been male. I can appreciate the aesthetic qualities of both genders, so perhaps it's just that, as an engineer, I encounter a lot more of one than the other. :lol: I've a...
by cyan
Wed May 07, 2008 12:03 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Romantic attraction?
Replies: 31
Views: 14157

Re: Romantic attraction?

I tend to classify myself as romantic because I am interested in forming (a) committed relationship(s) with people for whom I will have strong, deep feelings, complete trust, and (ideally) lots of cuddles, who will feel the same sorts of feelings and have the same sorts of intentions towards me. I'm...
by cyan
Mon May 05, 2008 10:56 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Help
Replies: 6
Views: 2276

Re: Help

Another important question (at least to my mind) -- are we talking storybook / Hollywood romance, or are we talking real romance between real people? Also, is it the "romantic relationships" you object to, or simply "romance"? Throwing in my two cents as an example, in an attempt...
by cyan
Wed Mar 12, 2008 9:14 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asex as safe word
Replies: 11
Views: 4122

Re: Asex as safe word

No and yes, in that chronological order. When I first discovered AVEN, I was searching for a reason why I wasn't attracted to the boy I was in a long distance not-a-relationship with. (Long story short: he was in love with me, I wasn't in love with him, I had no clue in the world what love was, and ...
by cyan
Wed Mar 12, 2008 9:56 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly
Replies: 51
Views: 33908

Re: Poly

polyfidelity *points* That. It's not so much that I'd get jealous of my partner(s) having other emotional attachments (though I probably would) as that I can't imagine not wanting to be close to the people I was close to, were close to. (Ok, I think I've used up my quota of the words "close to...
by cyan
Wed Mar 12, 2008 9:41 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sociability/Sexuality crossover
Replies: 23
Views: 9976

Re: Sociability/Sexuality crossover

cyan, I'm not sure if you're commenting on just omnes or the entire thread; so I'll try to summarise my point in a dozen words or less: sociablity doesn't determine sexuality, but the expression of it. 1, 2, 3 .... 10 words, woo hoo. In my case, my sociablity suppresses whatever sexuality I may hav...
by cyan
Wed Mar 12, 2008 9:29 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: I'm A and that's OK!
Replies: 22
Views: 6362

Re: I'm A and that's OK!

Hmm, sex ed in middle school. They had me convinced at "don't have sex yet"; I just said "okay, sounds kind of gross, I wasn't planning to anyway." All the rest of the discussion of condoms and STDs and pregnancy I sat through with a kind of bemused, "And people want to do t...
by cyan
Wed Mar 12, 2008 9:07 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: How active is your (imaginary) sex life?
Replies: 15
Views: 6527

Re: How active is your (imaginary) sex life?

I've had 2 overtly sexual dreams since a long time ago. In the first, I had (completely context-less but quite explicit) sex with ... er... someone? and enjoyed it, then woke up and worried about whether having a sexual dream and enjoying it and being aroused by it meant that I was actually sexual a...
by cyan
Wed Mar 12, 2008 8:34 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: More thoughts on the spaghetti monster
Replies: 8
Views: 2960

Re: More thoughts on the spaghetti monster

Arguing that sexual orientation (of any kind) genetic / learned / socialised / set in the womb / ordained by some higher power / otherwise caused... basically all boils down to accepting the premise: if people can be made heterosexual, they should be made heterosexual; and if people can't be made h...
by cyan
Mon Feb 25, 2008 3:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sociability/Sexuality crossover
Replies: 23
Views: 9976

Re: Sociability/Sexuality crossover

So in some ways within my family and closest circle of friends I'm an extrovert (and markedly so, I'd say), but taken as a group, we have a fairly strongly introverted attitude to the outside world. But I think that goes for everyone, to an extent: we all have a comfort zone. For some it's a one-pe...
by cyan
Mon Feb 25, 2008 11:52 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reactions to loss...
Replies: 19
Views: 7831

Re: Reactions to loss...

I feel like I have two stories here ... Story 1: Loss of a hope Last spring (wow, almost a year ago now :shock:), I found myself slowly coming to the realization that I was crushing madly on one of my closest friends. This was scary, as it was the first time I had crushed on someone who actually see...
by cyan
Mon Feb 25, 2008 10:48 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: General reactions
Replies: 39
Views: 12522

Re: General reactions

The first time I tried to come out (to my mom and best friend / not-a-relationship), I did it the cowardly way -- basically said "What if I never experience this mystical hormonal surge that will make me start wanting to have sex?" My mom got all twitchy about me dying alone and sad; my be...
by cyan
Sun Feb 24, 2008 3:51 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 33686

Re: The rest of your identity

In no particular order ... Electrical engineer turned software engineer (in training), college student, aikidoka (4th kyu), fanfic reader. Video game player. Friend. Daughter and sister, though I've been trying to increase the distance between myself and my family recently ... A strange combination ...
by cyan
Sun Feb 24, 2008 3:36 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 27864

Re: Who are you?

I am also cyan on AVEN (and in most of the rest of the interweb ...) Found a link to this site in someone's sig on AVEN and figured I'd give it a look ... I'm really excited about the conversations I've seen going on here, and look forward to (hopefully) contributing to it some, too. While I'm repul...