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by Heligan
Mon Mar 22, 2010 7:12 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Demisexual to Asexual (fluid sexuality)
Replies: 2
Views: 2434

Demisexual to Asexual (fluid sexuality)

Im clearly not very happy being asexual at the moment as I keep thinking about whatcould be done to change things back to how they used to be... Had another random thought that might be of especial interest to anyone who ever had sexual attraction via the demi route... It occurred to me that intrana...
by Heligan
Wed Feb 10, 2010 12:00 am
Forum: Blog Post Discussion
Topic: LGBTQQAILOLWTF?!
Replies: 16
Views: 14097

Re: LGBTQQAILOLWTF?!

Liking QuEST too.
by Heligan
Sat Feb 06, 2010 7:35 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Opposite Sex Friendship
Replies: 17
Views: 8749

Re: Opposite Sex Friendship

only 10 years of isolation to go then...LOL
by Heligan
Tue Jan 26, 2010 8:53 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Opposite Sex Friendship
Replies: 17
Views: 8749

Opposite Sex Friendship

My lack of male friends is really starting to do my head in; I think its a general issue for long term single people especially after a certain age. I always had malefriends in my twenties, and even into my thirties (but I was starting to lose them to Significant other jealously and family commitmen...
by Heligan
Tue Jan 26, 2010 8:24 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationship ethics: manipulation
Replies: 6
Views: 3384

Re: Relationship ethics: manipulation

I'm posting almost the same thing on two threads (which is probably spamming or something) http://www.apositive.org/viewtopic.php?f=14&t=105&p=3344#p3344 I have since learnt a bit more terminology and think that I used to be a specific variety of Grey-A; a demisexual (not feeling sexual attr...
by Heligan
Tue Jan 26, 2010 8:22 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines
Replies: 34
Views: 30104

Re: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines

Since I posted on here about Grey-As passing, Grey Lady has bought my comments up in a blog http://www.apositive.org/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=212 No probs with that... But I have since learnt a bit more terminology and think that I used to be a specific variety of Grey-A; a demisexual (not feeling se...
by Heligan
Sat Jan 16, 2010 2:25 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Asking my doctor about asexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 9941

Re: Asking my doctor about asexuality

Kudos for bettering yourself! I always laugh when I need a blood test or something, I have thick forearms, plus deep veins, last test I needed took I think 4 times on my left arm then another three on my right then they switched back to my left and found one. Usually they have to switch to somethin...
by Heligan
Sat Jan 16, 2010 2:09 am
Forum: Feedback
Topic: Getting more traffic?
Replies: 22
Views: 20112

Re: Getting more traffic?

Maybe breaking the index into more sections would help... after all we might be asexuals but we have a huge variety of other interrests. I for one dont necessarily want to talk about asexuality itself all the time, certainly not everyday, probably not even every week. But I do want to hang around wi...
by Heligan
Sat Jan 16, 2010 2:01 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Pre-asexuality views on sex?
Replies: 38
Views: 24748

Re: Pre-asexuality views on sex?

I was demisexual prior to becoming asexual; my views on sex were fairly liberal, I saw nothing wrong with sex without some kind of emotional connection, it just wasnt something I had ever experienced myself. Though myself, I never really understood flirting that wasnt just general banter and then ju...
by Heligan
Sat Jan 16, 2010 1:37 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hi There!
Replies: 5
Views: 1650

Re: Hi There!

Hi, I remember you from AVEN
by Heligan
Mon Nov 03, 2008 12:30 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: "I hate being asexual and want to change"
Replies: 29
Views: 22085

Re: "I hate being asexual and want to change"

It sounds like a straightforward statement, and if it is you are right they pretty much do have to accept it. But I would be inclined to try to find out why people are driven to say this to start with; do they really want to experience sexual attraction or is it something else about being asexual th...
by Heligan
Tue Sep 02, 2008 4:32 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines
Replies: 34
Views: 30104

Re: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines

Omnes et Nihil - excellent post- You are quite correct. However its probably like the homosexuality thing, where that needed to be accepted before bisexuality was accepted though- people like stuff simple, and if it isnt they like to at least pretend it is until they get used to the idea. When they ...
by Heligan
Sat Aug 23, 2008 6:39 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Female orgasmic function
Replies: 15
Views: 6125

Re: Female orgasmic function

I'd like to throw in that stimulation can still be quite pleasant for a lot of these non-orgasmic women. And it's also wise to remember that stimulation and even orgasm can be quite dull and pointless for some orgasmic women. This is sometimes referred to as "sexual anesthesia". Much of t...
by Heligan
Sat Jun 14, 2008 4:00 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: How can you really, really be sure if you are asexual?
Replies: 16
Views: 8587

Re: How can you really, really be sure if you are asexual?

How can you really, really be sure if you're anything ? You can't. It's the same boat we're all in. We can make an educated guess, but it's always possible that we're dead wrong about everything. It's just the risk we take by living. If identifying yourself as asexual works for the time being, go f...
by Heligan
Sat May 03, 2008 4:41 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines
Replies: 34
Views: 30104

Re: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines

This is something that concerns me, in terms of my own diagnosis. I used to be sexual and had some traumatic life experiences followed by a period of celibacy (it was supposed to be a year of time-out but turned into five without me really paying attention). Then I tried to start dating again and no...