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by Nathan
Tue Aug 10, 2010 3:33 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Recent "research" in the asexosphere
Replies: 3
Views: 2278

Recent "research" in the asexosphere

I am so in awe of the quantity and quality of asexuality-related resources on the internet these days that I have to make a post about it. Back in 2004 (!) after I came across the New Scientist article and AVEN, I tried to figure out things such as what made close relationships different from friend...
by Nathan
Thu Apr 15, 2010 6:20 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Asexual Flowchart
Replies: 10
Views: 5228

Re: Asexual Flowchart

Ha! That flowchart never gets old.
by Nathan
Tue Feb 23, 2010 7:53 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Casual or Short-Term Dating
Replies: 16
Views: 10495

Re: Casual or Short-Term Dating

The idea of short-term dating actually makes perfect sense to me, though I have no idea if I'm thinking of it in the same way as the OKCupid people. I think it's mainly an age thing. When people are older, it's more likely that marriage is the end-goal in mind when people date, so short-term, non-ma...
by Nathan
Thu Dec 31, 2009 11:21 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 19609

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

Just want to post a bit from this news article discussed on December 5th in the Shades of Gray blog in the post, Wanting it Indifferently . I think it's relevant to this discussion, and I think this is an excellent thread and worth bumping anyway. From the New York Times Magazine, November 29th, 200...
by Nathan
Wed Dec 30, 2009 6:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sexual and Asexual
Replies: 3
Views: 2449

Re: Sexual and Asexual

Congratulations on finding someone to share that sort of connection with. A question to think about is, what do you mean by the word "friendship" in your post? For most people, I think, a friendship does not require sex, and so “having a wonderful friendship filled with good stuff not cent...
by Nathan
Wed Feb 25, 2009 2:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asexuality in the Field
Replies: 2
Views: 1837

Asexuality in the Field

Let's see how well I can word this. There's a few different situations where sexual/asexual differences can come up: (1) People are already in a partnering relationship, and one of them realizes that they're asexual. (2) People mutually want to date each other, in the traditional way, and one of the...
by Nathan
Sat Jan 24, 2009 9:37 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Asexual erasure
Replies: 17
Views: 11028

Re: Asexual erasure

I wonder if most people really do think that acts determine orientation, or if it's just that they're being lazy and taking a shortcut. For sexual people, having sex is the obvious manifestation of their sexuality. It's reasonable for them to assume that other people doing the same thing are thinkin...
by Nathan
Fri Jan 23, 2009 2:25 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Defining asexuality from an asexual perspective
Replies: 4
Views: 3792

Defining asexuality from an asexual perspective

Recently I came across another asexual blog, http://thereisnocloset.blogspot.com . I found the post from 1/7 particularly interesting, because it deals with questions I've struggled with myself. The AVEN definition is clear, "A person who does not experience sexual attraction," and that wo...
by Nathan
Sun Nov 16, 2008 5:53 pm
Forum: Announcements
Topic: WAKE UP!
Replies: 11
Views: 6555

Re: WAKE UP!

I still check here for the occasional new post and I assume others do as well. I don't think the board's dead, it's just that nobody has posted anything. I read the new research article, and though it wasn't earthshattering, I guess it is fairly good academic press. I've been putting together some n...
by Nathan
Mon May 26, 2008 6:36 pm
Forum: Blog Post Discussion
Topic: It's not about the act
Replies: 13
Views: 29241

Re: It's not about the act: the blog post

The Apositive Admin wrote:Well if there's no other suggestions in the next couple of days then I'll post this on the blog for you.


Sounds great. Thank you.
by Nathan
Sun May 25, 2008 11:02 am
Forum: Blog Post Discussion
Topic: It's not about the act
Replies: 13
Views: 29241

It's not about the act

Most people on Apositive seem to agree that asexuality is not simply about whether or not somebody has sex, or enjoys sex, or even about whether or not somebody can want to have sex. It's about sexual attraction, and whether sexuality is a part of somebody's life and a necessary aspect of intimate r...
by Nathan
Fri May 23, 2008 9:53 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: friendship/romance question being discussed?
Replies: 6
Views: 3151

Re: friendship/romance question being discussed?

David Jay talks about it a smidge in his Asexuality 101 lecture, podcast 10-ish. The interesting bits for me were from around minutes 27-40. The example that kind of sums up the difference for me is, "If my friend moves to another city, they're probably not going to expect me to move with them....
by Nathan
Fri May 23, 2008 9:16 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: What is sex?
Replies: 18
Views: 7062

Re: What is sex?

Well, used to be that sex = heterosexual intercourse. Now, maybe the definition of sex is something defined by the people involved, not a particular set of acts. Kind of like a lot of things! I don't think everybody would say that any act involving genitals is sex -- though probably everything that ...
by Nathan
Tue May 13, 2008 5:51 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Romantic attraction?
Replies: 31
Views: 14048

Re: Romantic attraction?

I find the various people that have defined romantic relationships largely as individual expressions of societal constructs interesting, but it still seems like there should be something a little more concrete or solid, unless romantic attraction is actually just some chimeric fusion of the various...
by Nathan
Fri May 09, 2008 5:55 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: It's not about the act
Replies: 10
Views: 4072

Re: It's not about the act

He posted a new one a few days ago: http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?showtopic=31441 That seems to actually be episode #18, at least on my computer. That episode was also interesting though. So was his Asexuality 101 lecture somewhere around episode #10. I really enjoy hearing how his brain t...
by Nathan
Wed May 07, 2008 10:51 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Romantic attraction?
Replies: 31
Views: 14048

Re: Romantic attraction?

I do actually think of “romantic relationship” and “intimate relationship” as meaning the same thing – the type of partnering sexual people would have with a “sexual relationship.” Candlelit dinners and other socially romantic things wouldn't be a big part of an intimate relationship for me, and I w...
by Nathan
Mon May 05, 2008 8:03 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: It's not about the act
Replies: 10
Views: 4072

It's not about the act

Most people here seem to agree that asexuality is not simply about whether or not somebody has sex, or even whether or not somebody wants to have sex. It's about whether or not somebody feels sexual attraction, and whether or not sexuality is tied up in how intimate relationships are structured. The...
by Nathan
Mon May 05, 2008 1:45 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 27700

Re: Who are you?

I first googled asexuality back when the New Scientist article had just come out, and found AVEN from there. I was an avid reader of the forums, if an infrequent poster. Asexuality really fit with me and explained things about me in a way that made a lot of sense. Still, I have never identified as a...