Apositive

The difference between cisgender and transgender bodies (as a combination of mind and body, as in embodied being, perhaps?) is quite well documented. And it is not just a matter of brains, i guess. But simply put, if A's experience of the world as cisgender is better than B's experience of the worl...

cis and trans bodies are different I don't understand, do you mean brains? Technically trans and cis people are biologically the same haha. Please explain. So cis bodies on the sexuality and disability spectrums, cis bodies dealing with body dysmorphia, may also have their gender erased (Very Diffe...

Well sexual attraction is usually accompanied by pupil dilation, the observer can pick up on this along with a longer stare. The Naked Ape as well as relationship experts have said this phenomena is real and observable, so biology and emotions do exist and not a social construct. I read though that...

Cavalier080854 wrote: We are all born Ace.

lol what. No, sure we may not be sexually interested until puberty but that doesn't mean all people lack a sexual orientation until then. Only a minuscule percent of the population is born ace. Most people are born straight, I thought that was a scientific fact haha...

I'm not sure that fetishism is rare among aces, although I'm equally unsure if It's not. Some fetishes are not always sexual in nature, so that could be a factor. I personally know some aces with fetishes and some (as far as I know) without, but the main thing they have in common is that they aren'...

The whole concept of political lesbianism makes me want to denounce feminism as a massive fraud. Luckily it doesn't seem to be a prevailing concept, so I can ignore it, but . . . grrrr. I'm surprised its still around. You'd think it'd die out in the 60s but no, they still exist. I'm more interested...

Maybe you can create a discord server and post it here? At least discord doesn't make you pay and more people use that than forums nowadays... I don't know if that helps.

I was part of a 1998 study along with 5 other Aces, the youngest being 37, the oldest 72 (I thought she was 58 max) on Asexuality. The common factor being, all of use were clinically diagnosed in the 60/70s. The main thrust was looking at physical effects on Asexuals of images (static and dynamic) ...

I do know however I'm sex and (romantic/sexual) relationship repulsed as hell. Weird thing for me was once I came out as ace being sex/relationship repulsed has dissipated over the years. Like now i'm opening up to seeking a platonic partner because i'm comfortable with my relationships being close...

I could add also sexual attraction and orientation is defined by sexual interest in primary and secondary sex characteristics. Why straight people make up the majority is because of their attraction allowing them to reproduce. But a ton of straight people will also have sex with the same sex either ...

Hey, welcome! I have met a bunch of older aces before at ace events, though not that many. Clinically diagnosed as Asexual? Never heard that before...always thought it was just a descriptor for those sex repulsed in psychology. Yeah the intense politics are pretty over the top on these sites. I woul...

Wonder if you guys seen Milo Stewart. Basically is an internet meme at this point and advertises themselves as an asexual Youtuber. Makes trans and asexual people look like a joke. Kind've depressing these are the people we have advocating for us.

Excuse me, you are British person from one of the biggest imperialist, thieving powers on the planet and you are actually trying to argue that non-whites are the racists and moral transgressors? Wat... I took history class and i'm sure everyone around the worlds been racist and conquering civilizat...

Luminosity wrote:Ah. I didn't really get what you were saying at first. Sorry.

No prob. I'm a little awkward with words lol

I tend to tell people I know very, very well. Once it got out to someone I didn't know and I basically tried never discussing it again... Its always the same replies "do you have a fetish then? It must be nice not marrying/having sex/dating/having a sex drive? (even though I'm completely capabl...

Hello and welcome to Apositive. It's not very active but people here are more nicer. AVEN is kind've deteriorating and I don't even know how its being moderated anymore haha. I left in 2014? 2013? I can't even remember, I was only on there for 3 months lol

You can debate on here until your face goes blue lol No one gets banned or dogpiled. People are pretty laid back. Welcome!

Do you think there's something wrong with being non-binary? What...yes clearly I have a secret hatred for non binary folks when i'm criticizing binary identifying people who tell people their pronouns when its something non binary people struggle with for people to take them seriously and make it l...

Squish is like a term for a platonic crush. I guess you're an Aromantic Heterosexual to be exact? Also, hi! I'm aromantic too. Nice to see another aro.

my prognosis for the emotional health and happiness of future generations is pretty grim at this point, to put it mildly. I'm just hoping maybe it'll calm down like it does in the past. There's always a massive outrage in history and then it mellows out. Most can happen is more visibility and more ...

I don't know about you, but I don't even bother with talking about ace related things outside of here (and rarely on here for reasons) and counseling/therapy. Otherwise, I just occasionally tell people I'm an ace (my public label and the most true one) and move on. It saves me a lot of drama and le...

Hi, welcome. I'm sure i'm 100% aromantic if that helps. Hope you figure yourself out if you're wondering.

Being gay is attracted to the same sex. If masturbation makes you gay than everyones gay lol

Been bored and busy looking around at other ace places and it always the same dumb stuff just in varying quantities, I had to leave because I couldn't take it. Made an ace friend in real life and turned out to be extremely rude and sporting a type A personality you could only dream of and every ace ...

Left for a while and came back. Aw cool! You got it finally up!

I'm glad you guys like it! I've been trying to recommend this forum to an ace discord at least to get some activity. Maybe we'll see more people, who knows.

Yeah, people have mentioned discord to me a few times. Isn't it gamer orientated?

No, not that I know of. Everyones replacing it with skype now and is used for everything outside of games. I guess skype is becoming old news.

I know depression causes low sex drive and impotency but that and asexuality are pretty different things. Just my two cents.

Poly is a choice at least that's what I know after years of trying to understand it apparently it's just a social thing humans and other animals figure out what works for them. Apparently being monogomous is even more of a choice and poly is a status quo type deal. As for me being aro I envisioned I...

First you need to take a break, relax and sit back. Let what happens happen in terms of thoughts, you don't need to find a relationship platonic or not. If you're still questioning or coming to terms with it, it takes a while and you never know. People take years, decades before they can figure out ...