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by SlightlyMetaphysical
27 Nov 2011, 21:17
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Romantic and sexual orientation
Replies: 21
Views: 16876

Re: Romantic and sexual orientation

I actually know a couple of people who used to uneasily identify as bi- or pan- sexual who feel they can express themselves a lot better in the double-orientation system. My prediction is that the sexual/romantic binary will soon become more widespread to discuss 'bisexuality' than asexuality, which...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
23 Nov 2011, 00:50
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Are David Jay and the activists doing more harm than good?
Replies: 36
Views: 10328

Re: Are David Jay and the activists doing more harm than good?

Of course, that's what we're doing wrong! Not having elected officials for our visibility movement! I feel so stupid. It's that time in every visibility movement's life when it has to decide that the previous system of just having lots and lots of people doing as much or as little as they can, in th...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
30 Jan 2011, 03:17
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: No sex, wtf
Replies: 7
Views: 2004

Re: No sex, wtf

I completely agree. Firstly, there are a lot of asexuals who want or wouldn't mind sex to varying degrees, by varying definitions. If I was more confident in my asexuality right now, I'd be able to count myself as one and be self-righteously indignant. Because these messages tell me quite firmly tha...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
20 Jan 2011, 06:05
Forum: Relationships
Topic: online contact and the uglies
Replies: 3
Views: 1964

Re: online contact and the uglies

I think that someone can be a very close friend even if you've not met them in person. However, I think it's natural to categorise 'real life' and 'internet'. Depending on context, it may well not mean that 'real life' is better or more meaningful than 'internet', just more corporial.
by SlightlyMetaphysical
13 Jan 2011, 20:54
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: the invisible ace
Replies: 10
Views: 2700

Re: the invisible ace

Hi Michael. Personally, I think knowing you're asexual can often give someone a lot of confidence and clarity on their own life, and even if you never directly mention it to anyone, that level of confidence in who you are and what you don't want will eventually begin to affect the way you deal with ...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
01 Jan 2011, 14:33
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: the activism bug
Replies: 16
Views: 4071

Re: the activism bug

Thre's a software glitch that prevents me from seeing what I'm typing wny more so I have to stop now. I have that one. On pretty much every forum I go on. It annoys the heck out of me. And I've had personal experience with my university LGBT of people grabbing personal power. Call me hopelessly opt...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
01 Jan 2011, 07:58
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: the activism bug
Replies: 16
Views: 4071

Re: the activism bug

Siggy- I agree. People who's asexuality was caused by things shouldn't be a seperate category. After all, everyone's sexualities were caused by things. "It seems that I have a stalker. I left another forum because I was being subjected to both sly/underhanded and overt personal abuse, and the a...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
23 Dec 2010, 00:48
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Newbie
Replies: 3
Views: 787

Re: Newbie

OMG, Derby? Like, serious? Can we start an asexual scene (of two?). Sorry for my forwardness, am v. shocked.
by SlightlyMetaphysical
18 Dec 2010, 12:02
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Plan B Ad
Replies: 23
Views: 11823

Re: Plan B Ad

Hmm. That's not actually as bad as I thought it'd be, from seeing the writing. Nowhere near as bad. It still kinda sucks that asexuality isn't seen as a valid option. Then again, for most people, it isn't. And I think, whatever the intent, this idea that asexuals are trying to be good and pure is a ...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
16 Dec 2010, 05:07
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Could you love/have a relationship with a mtf/ftm asexual?
Replies: 52
Views: 17264

Re: Could you love/have a relationship with a mtf/ftm asexual?

P- I know what you mean about words and associations. One of my trans friends uses tranny constantly, and I have no idea whether and in which contexts I'm allowed to use it. I've also met someone who happily identifies as a hermaphrodite, because they think the term intersex sounds too much like &qu...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
14 Dec 2010, 15:46
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Caution: There might be a sexual in your window!
Replies: 5
Views: 2061

Re: Caution: There might be a sexual in your window!

'Freedom fondle' sounds disturbingly cute. I can imagine that being the actual PR spin.

Can't think of any dirty jokes right now. They tend to just come up in conversation.
(in-your-endo!)
by SlightlyMetaphysical
03 Dec 2010, 12:02
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Asexuals who LOOOOOVE teh sex
Replies: 14
Views: 5780

Re: Asexuals who LOOOOOVE teh sex

I feel like a n00b every time I post, since I've discovered that I can't possibly go through every single post ever made by an asexual anywhere (but feel like I should have done so!). You're just not trying hard enough!! I'm gonna go ahead and answer this even though: -I don't technically class mys...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
23 Nov 2010, 14:30
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Asexual relationship energy and communities
Replies: 20
Views: 7379

Re: Asexual relationship energy and communities

I used to dislike ace for all the reasons mentioned. I thought it was frivilous and superior. Then I realised that casual, semi-serious words (like squish, and asexy), words that people can use while laughing at themselves for using them, but which still have a genuine function, are the words that a...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
21 Oct 2010, 08:58
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Why do I get the feeling this is a bad idea?
Replies: 33
Views: 7526

Re: Why do I get the feeling this is a bad idea?

Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha. Haahahahahaha. Hah-hah. That was my first reaction to the initial post, and it was going to be my entire post, but Siggy was the voice of sense (as he so often is) [quote="Siggy"]If I may make a more explicit argument against the mascot, coming from someone who ...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
20 Oct 2010, 21:19
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Ace-friendly LGBT groups
Replies: 23
Views: 8740

Re: Ace-friendly LGBT groups

The reception I think will largely vary on the background and type of group, but in general LGBT and A are not a good mix and here is the reason why: Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual forums base themselves on SEXUALITY as there are hardly any other similarities. Some LGB will be right wing, some left wing...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
01 Sep 2010, 23:36
Forum: Feedback
Topic: Getting more traffic?
Replies: 22
Views: 16586

Re: Getting more traffic?

The problem with that would be that I can't find apositive anywhere in the first 5 pages for 'Asexual' or 'Asexuality' on google.

We've got a lot of googling to do...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
24 Aug 2010, 05:20
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly
Replies: 50
Views: 21200

Re: Poly

Ok, I can see where the misunderstandings crept in. My love of numbered lists can be a real pain. And I never meant to imply that you were being a bastard, you're clearly thoughtful and sensitive, just that you might not fully understand the implications of becoming poly. Yeah, deep friendship/emoti...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
24 Aug 2010, 01:16
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly
Replies: 50
Views: 21200

Re: Poly

the line between options 2 and 3 can be very blurry, like what Kagu143 is saying about the whole boundaries and what consitute cheating, it seems like such a minefield, something that I'm not sure I have the skills to negotiate. Ok, so analysing someone by a few paragraphs they wrote on the interne...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
22 Aug 2010, 21:10
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly
Replies: 50
Views: 21200

Re: Poly

Hi Fridayoak. I'm in a similar place to you at the moment, in terms of wondering whether to call myself polyamorous, but without the romantic dilemma that you're in. It seems to me that you have four options: 1. Remain single, but involve these three women in your life as good friends 2. Choose one ...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
13 Aug 2010, 08:04
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Jeremy kyle show
Replies: 8
Views: 2980

Re: Jeremy kyle show

Oddly enough, one of my friends mentioned today's Jeremy Kyle. She said she hadn't seen it, but apparently, according to someone she knew who had, something interesting actually happened in it. She said this at a random point in the conversation, so I assumed she was hinting (she knows I'm asexual),...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
08 Jul 2010, 22:00
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Casual or Short-Term Dating
Replies: 16
Views: 7316

Re: Casual or Short-Term Dating

I'm in agreement with Nathan and Grey Lady. As a not-romantic, not-aromantic person (greyromantic?), if I date, I'll probably try deliberately to avoid how a standard relationship grows. This could mean 'casual' relationships, polyamorous relationships, community-based intimacy or any mix of the thr...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
05 Jul 2010, 22:07
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: The Creation of a Flag
Replies: 47
Views: 86526

Re: The Creation of a Flag

My gosh, the forum for setting up flag designs makes... interesting reading. Don't know how much I'll be able to read, but so far, they seem to be saying that horizontal stripes are uniquely the preserve of LGBT (take that, France! Germany! And, come to think of it, America!). My favourite post so f...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
01 Jul 2010, 22:47
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Sexual repression?
Replies: 53
Views: 24583

Re: Sexual repression?

Come back, Troll! We want to play some more!

Ok, not me specifically, because those text walls hurt my eyes, but scanning for random quotes sure produced some hilarity.
by SlightlyMetaphysical
30 Jun 2010, 20:02
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Oppression and asexuality
Replies: 13
Views: 8455

Re: Oppression and asexuality

Oppression = power x privilege x prejudice I'm not a math nerd and I've been told that the equation should look a little different, but the basic idea is that if you replace any of the p's with a 0, you get 0 instead of oppression. Sexuals, especially heterosexuals, definitely have power and privil...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
29 Jun 2010, 00:23
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Ace-friendly LGBT groups
Replies: 23
Views: 8740

Re: Ace-friendly LGBT groups

*prodding alongside you* I really have absolutely zero experience of LGBT, except second-hand, from asexuals and from a gay friend. However, in the interests of keeping this thread going, I'm gonna guess: 1. People in the group need to realise that asexuality is a sexual orientation. It helps if the...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
25 Jun 2010, 23:06
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Ace-friendly LGBT groups
Replies: 23
Views: 8740

Re: Ace-friendly LGBT groups

I make it my goal as an activist to make a safe space for asexuals in the LGBT community. You know, I don't think I've ever seen that thought expressed before. There's always this passive acceptance of either "Yes, LGBT is a good place for asexuals" or "NO! The twain can never meet!&...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
30 May 2010, 04:41
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Asexually Attracted
Replies: 11
Views: 2850

Re: Asexually Attracted

That sounds quite similar to 'demisexuality', which tends to be defined as being either sexually attracted to someone or able to enjoy sex with them after connecting with them. Try google- and AVEN-searching it. It is also much more logical than it sounds that an asexual could get a lot more out of ...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
03 May 2010, 00:20
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: On Demisexuality
Replies: 33
Views: 14949

Re: On Demisexuality

I'm saying: If the definition (as stated on the wiki) of what "secondary sexual attraction" is, is so broad as to technically describe ME... Then that's a really, really bad definition. Because what I experience is most definitely NOT sexual attraction! (Which I have felt on a few extreme...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
29 Apr 2010, 21:38
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: On Demisexuality
Replies: 33
Views: 14949

Re: On Demisexuality

Siggy, thanks for re-considering your position on demisexuality and the myth of soulmates. Although it's interesting how they interact, and something I'd never thought about before you brought it to my attention, I think demisexuals still tend to assume that they have the capacity to date many peopl...
by SlightlyMetaphysical
29 Apr 2010, 06:11
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: On Demisexuality
Replies: 33
Views: 14949

Re: On Demisexuality

Siggy, I don't think our current definition of demisexuality invalidates itself, too much. Although my definition of it tends to be quite different from the AVENwiki's, as I have a tendency to lump demisexuality in with grey-a-ness. The way I would explain this is that some people feel very little, ...

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