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by Jessamyn
Tue Jan 29, 2008 5:34 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why not have sex?
Replies: 25
Views: 8730

Re: Why not have sex?

well, that was an example. knowing me I probably would scarf down the potato chips, but that's because I have an interest in eating them. :D mmmm, potato chips...
by Jessamyn
Tue Jan 29, 2008 5:28 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why not have sex?
Replies: 25
Views: 8730

Re: Why not have sex?

I went through this issue recently on a topic completely unrelated to asexuality--my friends couldn't understand why I don't drink, if I'm not morally opposed to it. it holds zero interest for me. it's not even something I would do in a social situation because... why bother? I'm not going to go sca...
by Jessamyn
Sun Jan 27, 2008 5:10 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20101

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

it seems to be a rather loud minority, unfortunately.
by Jessamyn
Sun Jan 27, 2008 11:49 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 34195

Re: The rest of your identity

I'm a knitter, a mathematician, and a musician. all of which are far more prominent aspects of my identity than my asexuality.
by Jessamyn
Sat Jan 26, 2008 3:48 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: It's All About Us
Replies: 18
Views: 7161

Re: It's All About Us

ooh! I knew I recognized it, just couldn't place it without the context of the rest of the tattoo.

I still think that photo is excellent. :D
by Jessamyn
Sat Jan 26, 2008 3:07 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: It's All About Us
Replies: 18
Views: 7161

Re: It's All About Us

Mr. P, I feel I should know what your avatar is about but I've not a clue. enlightenment, please?
by Jessamyn
Sat Jan 26, 2008 11:44 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20101

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

okay, this keeps coming up in the announcements thread over at AVEN, but I am loathe to post there for various reasons, so I just want to make a statement here and move on with it. LACK OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION AND ENJOYMENT OF SEXUAL ACTIVITY ARE NOT MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE. *ahem* *sits down* [edit] neverm...
by Jessamyn
Sun Jan 20, 2008 9:26 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 28312

Re: Who are you?

I'm a bunny, former mod of musirants and announcements and original project team member.

I'm much more of a numbers person than a words person, so I often feel like a bit of an idiot when reading posts made here. I try to keep up, though.
by Jessamyn
Sat Jan 19, 2008 11:41 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: A familial model of love.
Replies: 17
Views: 10704

Re: A familial model of love.

yeah, Mr. P, I was just going to respond to 70k that the western view toward love is very much a sudden, head over heels kind of emotional rush that happens very fast. but love can also be built slowly, on trust and respect* and shared experiences. in fact a lot of people believe that the latter for...
by Jessamyn
Fri Jan 18, 2008 6:47 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Wankers of the World, Wax On.......
Replies: 10
Views: 4764

Re: Wankers of the World, Wax On.......

As this trend continues, I think there's been a tradeoff for men: male masturbation has been real for longer (with a possible vacation in the Victorian era), but never the thing of beauty that female masturbation is becoming. It's still banal and ugly and juvenile, best accompanied by some amount o...
by Jessamyn
Fri Jan 18, 2008 9:27 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)
Replies: 29
Views: 12814

Re: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)

it really depends on the context in which it's presented, like everything else. is it tastefully done? does it contribute to the overall story? do the sex scenes bring some sort of point or revelation that couldn't be revealed otherwise? I hate gratuitous scenes of any kind, really, not just sexuali...
by Jessamyn
Thu Jan 17, 2008 4:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What do you call your relationships?
Replies: 30
Views: 12312

Re: What do you call your relationships?

it depends on the context and the person I'm speaking to, but the boy is usually just 'the boy,' or I refer to him by name. with people who don't know him or of him, he's my boyfriend, or the guy I'm dating. I don't usually have a lot of trouble with terms... I guess because we started dating before...
by Jessamyn
Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is Blood thicker than Water?
Replies: 26
Views: 10227

Re: Is Blood thicker than Water?

I do get on well with my parents - it's really weird, because I'm part of the very few families (that I've heard about) that never argue or fight. We bicker (about the remote control, etc), but I can't imagine us ever fighting like you hear/see being talked about. That said and done, I don't "...
by Jessamyn
Mon Jan 14, 2008 1:23 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Points of entry
Replies: 37
Views: 11510

Re: Points of entry

I actually think this is a fascinating take on the concept that asexual people have more focus because we're not distracted by sexual thoughts. we're not more focused; we're just distracted by other things.

(I get distracted by knitted clothing. you're all shocked, I'm sure.)
by Jessamyn
Wed Jan 09, 2008 12:21 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20101

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

Seems to think it means I must really like him for him or some such. yeah! I don't get that. like somehow the emotional attraction is stronger/deeper just because the sexual attraction isn't there? I mean, I get silly frivolous little crushes all the time, and they are definitely no less frivolous ...
by Jessamyn
Tue Jan 08, 2008 11:17 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20101

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

ahaha you are definitely not alone in the laughing thing. I do that a lot. the boy does it, even.
by Jessamyn
Tue Jan 08, 2008 10:45 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20101

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

I do like describing things, though. I feel good about having worked out I'm sexually interested but not sexually attracted. It makes sense in my head. I like figuring these things out too! otherwise I probably wouldn't be here :P but I do think that there may not necessarily be a specific source f...
by Jessamyn
Tue Jan 08, 2008 9:34 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20101

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

seriously? seriously ? get out of my brain. you're scaring me. I've been off and on with the boy (who is sexual) for um, just under five years. we really don't get into sexual situations very often, but when we do I often find myself responding, as you say, more than I think I will. I do enjoy it, a...
by Jessamyn
Tue Jan 08, 2008 7:10 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly
Replies: 51
Views: 34918

Re: Poly

*points to the door* out of my brain please, spin.

I do like poly-affectionate. I'm very much that.
by Jessamyn
Tue Jan 08, 2008 4:26 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boundaries
Replies: 14
Views: 3978

Re: Boundaries

I'm not sure I'd be considered poly, since I do prefer being in just one serious romantic relationship at a time, but I definitely fall into the category of a cuddle whore (:P) and I tend to enjoy activities with friends (like cuddling) that most would give a romantic connotation to. most of my boun...
by Jessamyn
Tue Jan 08, 2008 3:28 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: General reactions
Replies: 39
Views: 12744

Re: General reactions

my parents have trouble understanding the idea of a romantic relationship without sexual attraction, but then I never did discuss the issue with them very fully. they're pretty accepting, really. the friends that I've told don't really understand it that much, but they're not bothered by it. I don't...