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by Vittoria
Fri Jul 30, 2010 6:41 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Asexual Zine! - Call for submission
Replies: 21
Views: 10312

Re: Asexual Zine! - Call for submission

Have you had many responses to this--will you have enough for your zine to be published?
by Vittoria
Sun Jan 17, 2010 11:38 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Pre-asexuality views on sex?
Replies: 38
Views: 24189

Re: Pre-asexuality views on sex?

I was romantically attracted to women forever--I never thought I was straight. I liked the idea of sex, but once I kissed someone and realized kissing was just... grody, I started to think about the actual physical interaction of sex and I realised I wasn't interested in that side of things. I still...
by Vittoria
Sun Jan 17, 2010 11:24 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20092

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

I really like that quoted part--when I picture myself in a sexual relationship that's how I picture myself. I don't know if I would be that way in real life. Perhaps if I met just the right sort of woman. Would I still be considered sexual? Yeah, probably by the outside world, but I don't know if I ...
by Vittoria
Sun Jan 17, 2010 11:16 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: What do *you* think causes Asexuality?
Replies: 13
Views: 7140

Re: What do *you* think causes Asexuality?

My answer to this question is always, "does it matter?" Would knowing what "caused" our asexuality change our lives, help us somehow, or significantly increase our self-understanding? I don't know, and considering we're not even close to determining a cause, it seems like sort o...
by Vittoria
Fri Mar 07, 2008 6:54 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 28272

Re: Who are you?

That made me happy. :D Like that.
by Vittoria
Fri Mar 07, 2008 6:28 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: How active is your (imaginary) sex life?
Replies: 15
Views: 6622

Re: How active is your (imaginary) sex life?

I was Lavinia from Titus Andronicus. I'd be all about being dominated by Tamora... My attempts at sexual fantasy never quite worked out, but occasionally they turned into scenarios with sexual tension and a power difference, which I think is really hot. There's a sexual element to it, but it's alwa...
by Vittoria
Thu Mar 06, 2008 5:52 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: How active is your (imaginary) sex life?
Replies: 15
Views: 6622

How active is your (imaginary) sex life?

Prompted by moonchild's thread I started thinking about my propensity for carrying on sexual relationships (in my head) with some people I'm romantically attracted to. Not all people, just some, and it's never over the long term. I meet a woman, find her interesting, and start fantasizing about her....
by Vittoria
Thu Mar 06, 2008 3:23 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: A question about non-sexual romantic interests..
Replies: 9
Views: 5184

Re: A question about non-sexual romantic interests..

I can identify when you say that even now you can't imagine sex with your guy-crush because some of my crushes are romantic but purely platonic--even in my mind. I do sometimes have crushes that are romantic and I enjoy thinking about sex with the other person, though I have no interest in pursuing ...
by Vittoria
Wed Mar 05, 2008 3:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Broaching the topic of asexuality
Replies: 19
Views: 10995

Re: Broaching the topic of asexuality

When I first started to try to date (before I discovered I didn't have the patience for it) I waited until I got to know a person before telling them I wsn't interested in sex. I always put it that way because I hadn't yet encountered the term 'asexual'. That never worked out well for me, I suppose ...
by Vittoria
Wed Mar 05, 2008 3:47 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 28272

Re: Who are you?

Oh cool. You're the one who posted about my essay on your LJ.
by Vittoria
Wed Mar 05, 2008 3:44 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: A question about non-sexual romantic interests..
Replies: 9
Views: 5184

Re: A question about non-sexual romantic interests..

Something that many sexual people have a difficult time understanding is the separation of romantic and sexual interest. You've experienced what romantic asexuals experience with the majority of their relationships--the romantic part without the sexual part. Usually I try to show sexual people what ...
by Vittoria
Tue Mar 04, 2008 7:03 am
Forum: Feedback
Topic: Apositive responses to articles in Knowledge Base?
Replies: 1
Views: 2120

Re: Apositive responses to articles in Knowledge Base?

I like that idea, spins. :thumbs:
by Vittoria
Tue Mar 04, 2008 7:02 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is Blood thicker than Water?
Replies: 26
Views: 10227

Re: Is Blood thicker than Water?

In our monthly family letter my uncle was talking about sin and the end of the world and told a story about a group of men who killed a gay man and (here's the part that gets me) he then went on to say, "And now they are in prison while the homosexual was made a hero." THAT WAS A COMPLAIN...
by Vittoria
Sat Mar 01, 2008 6:50 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: beyond 101: explaining nuance to the media and others
Replies: 11
Views: 7409

Re: beyond 101: explaining nuance to the media and others

When trying to explain how an asexual person can have libido I usually use the, "It's like being hungry but not fancying anything on offer," metaphor. People tend to get that. I must say that I'm pretty lazy when it comes to discussing nuance with people, though. I usually only try to talk...
by Vittoria
Fri Feb 29, 2008 3:04 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 34160

Re: The rest of your identity

I'm a reader and I enjoy writing. I bead sometimes. I like listening to music. Philosophically I'm a compassionate nihilist. Just because nothing means anything doesn't mean you can be an ass.
by Vittoria
Fri Feb 29, 2008 2:57 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: ooh, somebody noticed
Replies: 10
Views: 3823

Re: ooh, somebody noticed

ILikewise, though I am not asexual, it only makes sense that asexuals would have a better vantage point to analyze and deconstruct issues of sexuality because they have been essentially forced to question these concepts their entire lives, while most of the rest of us only think critically about se...
by Vittoria
Tue Jan 22, 2008 5:38 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)
Replies: 29
Views: 12805

Re: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)

Ever since this thread was started I've been thinking about a sex scene in a film whose name escapes me now... The film was mediocre, but there was a not particularly graphic, but very tender sex scene near the beginning. Without that scene the movie would have been entirely different--the dynamic b...
by Vittoria
Tue Jan 22, 2008 5:04 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: General reactions
Replies: 39
Views: 12715

Re: General reactions

The general reaction has been, "Yeah, that makes sense," from people who know me.

I've also had people ask me if I thought I may be asexual several years prior to my discovering the word, so I suppose I just give it off.
by Vittoria
Mon Jan 21, 2008 6:43 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20092

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

Mysteria, I'm not sure I'd be ok with sleeping with a person who wasn't really listening to me to begin with... I take it you have loads in common? I've just always had a problem with people who claim to love me but then don't listen to me--I feel they don't really love me because they've not been l...
by Vittoria
Mon Jan 21, 2008 6:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: A familial model of love.
Replies: 17
Views: 10688

Re: A familial model of love.

I've always used that brain scan test of people in love to prove that people in "love" are really half-crazed by the serotonin, which wears off within 18 to 24 months. I hadn't considered that that meant that some people probably wouldn't have that chemical reaction ever--like people who c...
by Vittoria
Mon Jan 21, 2008 3:40 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Female orgasmic function
Replies: 15
Views: 5816

Re: Female orgasmic function

This reminds me of the Redbook article where they said 70% of women would prefer chocolate to sex. Oprah has done shows about the high percentage of abnormal women who have low libido. Excuse me very much, but it's not all that 'abnormal' if a huge portion of the population is experiencing it, you t...
by Vittoria
Mon Jan 21, 2008 9:53 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: I'm A and that's OK!
Replies: 22
Views: 6441

Re: I'm A and that's OK!

Person A to me : Well it was nice to meet you. Me : You too. Bye. [goes to leave] Person A to Person B : Hey look at this. [picks up a pamphlet about asexuality from a shelf, that had nothing to do with me] Person B : Yeah, we should do a segment on our radio show about asexuality. Person A : But w...
by Vittoria
Sun Jan 20, 2008 1:07 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)
Replies: 29
Views: 12805

Re: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)

I'm not bothered by it as long as it serves a purpose or is at least well written/filmed/whatever. Complaiing about it would be like left handed people bitching about how everything's made for right-handed people. Well, yeah, there're more of them, of course the world will be tailored to them. Howev...
by Vittoria
Sun Jan 20, 2008 12:32 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Points of entry
Replies: 37
Views: 11500

Re: Points of entry

Wow. That's total b.s. the people who say that ... I don't know what they are.I don't find it all that difficult to understand sexual people. Do the Hardwired people also think Caucasians can't get along with anyone else, etc? And I can't believe they say we could 'never get along with' sexual peopl...
by Vittoria
Sat Jan 19, 2008 6:53 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20092

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

That rules. Rules, I say.
by Vittoria
Sat Jan 19, 2008 6:52 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: I'm A and that's OK!
Replies: 22
Views: 6441

I'm A and that's OK!

People tend to focus on the negative, "I was made to feel less than because I'm a..." so I wanted to have a thread about the good moments and how being a is a fine and dandy way to be. I've been out for years and the people who've known me best have always said (upon finding out about my o...
by Vittoria
Sat Jan 19, 2008 6:40 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 20092

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

I've heard anecdotes from time to time about intimate relationships between, say, a gay man and a straight woman that stray into sexual territory out of sheer affection without anyone's orientation changing. I'd like to know more about this phenomenon, and talk to some such people if they're out th...
by Vittoria
Sat Jan 19, 2008 6:32 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boundaries
Replies: 14
Views: 3978

Re: Boundaries

The bunny said it. Every relationship is its own beast, so I've never felt compelled to say "poly" or worry about which relationships are Relationships. This may sound odd coming from a guy who just got married, but I still feel this way. Being faithful to someone extends to a lot more th...
by Vittoria
Sat Jan 19, 2008 6:16 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Points of entry
Replies: 37
Views: 11500

Re: Points of entry

Hell, I about as preoccupied with sex and sexuality as anyone I know of, and I probably know more about it than most sexuals. I'm just completely apathetic about interacting sexually with anyone. What he said. I find sex absolutely fascinating. I also find certain celebrities that have no discernib...
by Vittoria
Sat Jan 19, 2008 6:06 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is Blood thicker than Water?
Replies: 26
Views: 10227

Re: Is Blood thicker than Water?

Nijiiro wrote:Relatives are just a mechanism for helping you leave the nest. Willingly. Desperately.


:haha: great. And tell me about it. I couldn't wait to get the hell away from my family. I like them just fine. Over <i>there</i>.