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by Gadfly-in-Chief
Mon Jan 31, 2011 1:24 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: nocturnal erections
Replies: 4
Views: 1713

Re: nocturnal erections

Full bladder can cause an involuntary erection. Also, any male not experiencing erectile dysfunction will normally experience an erection during REM sleep multiple times per night (and not be aware of it having happened).
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Fri Jan 14, 2011 3:22 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: farrago triggers
Replies: 11
Views: 3465

Re: farrago triggers

I dunno. I'm not poor, but I buy a few when the jackpots get high. The profits here go to public education, and that needs all the help it can get.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sun Jan 02, 2011 4:41 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: the touchy-feely thread
Replies: 11
Views: 4379

Re: the touchy-feely thread

I don't like being touched casually or by strangers, except for handshakes. I've learned to accept hugs as being a convention in certain communities I belong to and can accept them in that context, but not otherwise. Oddly, at a time in my life (now long passed) when multiple cheek kisses were part ...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sun Jan 02, 2011 4:36 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: mild rant about anachronistic perspectives
Replies: 2
Views: 809

Re: mild rant about anachronistic perspectives

All virtues are a mean between two opposed extremes, as Aristotle said. But some virtues are meaner than others.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sun Jan 02, 2011 4:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I'm in love with my asexual best friend
Replies: 5
Views: 4863

Re: I'm in love with my asexual best friend

MS: I'm going to claim that I am the source of that signature, though I'd be surprised if no one else ever penned a similar thought. It was something that occurred to me when studying ancient philosophy way back in 1974.

Dargon: Yeah, I know. Thought I'd pop in and see what's been going on.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sat Jan 01, 2011 11:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I'm in love with my asexual best friend
Replies: 5
Views: 4863

Re: I'm in love with my asexual best friend

I've been in love with straight friends, gay friends, and a- friends, none of whom have felt the same way about me. Telling them has always been disastrous to the friendship. Not telling them has always been disastrous to the friendship. Perhaps I should have told the ones I didn't, and not told the...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Wed Mar 04, 2009 12:35 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Don't knock it til you try it!
Replies: 23
Views: 12230

Re: Don't knock it til you try it!

Orientation does not equal, and does not invariably predict, behavior. Last time I looked, the masturbation poll on AVEN indicated that about two thirds of the avenisti who replied enjoyed a good wank as much as anyone else (although I have always suspected that asexuals who enjoy a good wank enjoy ...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Thu Jul 17, 2008 1:40 pm
Forum: Announcements
Topic: New Admin Wanted
Replies: 11
Views: 7286

Re: New Admin Wanted

Hmmm...........
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sun May 25, 2008 2:06 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: What is sex?
Replies: 18
Views: 6815

Re: What is sex?

To me, sexual activity is any conscious, deliberate action the intent of which is to induce pleasure of the sort that can result in orgasm*. I want to unpack this, and write a bit on what specifically is and is not sexual activity to me. Wet dreams are not. They are neither conscious nor deliberate...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:26 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 32385

Re: The rest of your identity

I probably did. My identity is like my hemorrhoids: constantly present, ever shifting, and mostly painless.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Wed Mar 05, 2008 3:52 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 32385

Re: The rest of your identity

It's my understanding that there is another atheist Christian on this board. Isn't that true, Gadfly? Also, I just made the 1,000th post. Go me. Probably not, at least as regards me. And apologies for taking so long to find this and reply. Religiously, I'm Unitarian Universalist. And it is quite po...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Fri Feb 08, 2008 5:43 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Beyond Presidential Primaries
Replies: 6
Views: 2281

Re: Beyond Presidential Primaries

Our primary is Tuesday, and Imma gonna Ba-rock the vote.........
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Thu Feb 07, 2008 5:34 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: The Storms model
Replies: 33
Views: 28297

Re: The Storms model

And homosexuality was conceived in Paris in the 1260s, and born in Vienna 600 or so years later.......???
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Wed Feb 06, 2008 6:17 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Who's got the power?
Replies: 29
Views: 8229

Re: Who's got the power?

Olivier wrote:...and I thought other perspectives would be interesting.


As do I. I'm only offering mine. I hope it won't keep others from offering theirs.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Wed Feb 06, 2008 5:42 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Who's got the power?
Replies: 29
Views: 8229

Re: Who's got the power?

I've never been particularly interested in analyzing romantic/sexual/interpersonal relationsips in terms of power. I acknowledge that these dynamics exist. But if power is the primary frame of reference in which a relationship is going to be examined and evaluated and conducted, well, I'm just not i...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Mon Feb 04, 2008 6:47 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: What is hypo?
Replies: 17
Views: 4829

Re: What is hypo?

"Hyposexual" isn't in the DSM IV. Nor aparently is "Hyposexual Desire Disorder". I don't have an online version to try to find it in. But "Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder" is listed as 302.71 in DSM-IV-TR. (My housemate among other things is a psychologist. Handy at t...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Wed Jan 30, 2008 12:09 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why not have sex?
Replies: 25
Views: 8232

Re: Why not have sex?

I don't think you can rely on the media for a nuanced presentation of anything complicated, whether it is a political primary or a war in Iraq or asexuality or evolutionary psychology. Scholarly journals may or may not be another matter. All the media is after is selling stuff. The content is almost...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Tue Jan 29, 2008 5:31 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why not have sex?
Replies: 25
Views: 8232

Re: Why not have sex?

Jessamyn wrote:I'm not going to go scarf down a bag of potato chips if I'm not really interested in eating them just because they're there.


Oh, how I envy you. I'm asexual, but I am decidedly not achipal.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Tue Jan 29, 2008 5:22 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why not have sex?
Replies: 25
Views: 8232

Re: Why not have sex?

Cupla three thoughts 'bout all that. We seem to have re-opened the prime question of our critics in the media: if sex means nothing to us, why not just have it? If it means nothing to us, why bother having it? Physiologically and probably psychologically, it's the riskier course of action. we're lea...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Mon Jan 28, 2008 2:15 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 32385

Re: The rest of your identity

Olivier wrote:....the local bushfire brigade and jazz festival....


Pardon me if I enjoy processing that as a single entity.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sun Jan 27, 2008 3:18 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 32385

Re: The rest of your identity

The other major identity thing in my life right now I suppose is atheist unitarian universalism. But these identity things have a way of coming and going over the years. For decades, I identified as gay, but now I identify as asexual because it gives me a more nuanced and detailed and true way of ex...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sat Jan 26, 2008 7:11 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 27004

Re: Who are you?

Witch of Wapping wrote:And I'm probably the oldest here (56, if you need to know).


Nope, not quite.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Mon Jan 21, 2008 12:38 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Have you thought about your relationship with Freud lately?
Replies: 12
Views: 5267

Re: Have you thought about your relationship with Freud lately?

When I was a junior in university, I did volunteer work at the adolescent wing of a state psychiatric hospital, and we had an hour of training every week before three hours with the residents. I particularly remember this at the end of a session about various schools of psychology: Behaviorist: Freu...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Mon Jan 21, 2008 12:33 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Wankers of the World, Wax On.......
Replies: 10
Views: 4610

Re: Wankers of the World, Wax On.......

The Pepys is interesting (among other reasons) because, except for that one niggle of discomfort at the beginning, he always seems to mention it with absolute neutrality and lack of value judgement. (He also writes openly in the diary of his sexual activities with others, including but not limited t...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Mon Jan 21, 2008 12:12 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: General reactions
Replies: 39
Views: 11982

Re: General reactions

Omnes et Nihil wrote:....here in Canada's Texas....


I have to ask, if you don't mind saying, where exactly or generally that is.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sun Jan 20, 2008 5:44 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Points of entry
Replies: 37
Views: 10859

Re: Points of entry

You should watch for the falcons that feed on them as well. I understand their numbers are increasing in the concrete canyons.
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sun Jan 20, 2008 3:48 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)
Replies: 29
Views: 12253

Re: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)

Complaiing about it would be like left handed people bitching about how everything's made for right-handed people. Well, yeah, there're more of them, of course the world will be tailored to them. . I'm actually bothered quite a bit more by the right-handed bias of our cultures than I am by any sort...
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sun Jan 20, 2008 10:36 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 27004

Re: Who are you?

If I ever figure out who I am, I will decide whether or not to tell anyone.. Meanwhile, there are enough clues around for those who do not already know....... :silence:
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sat Jan 19, 2008 6:46 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 19232

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

I had a buddy when I lived up in the DC area who had been married to the same woman for 30+ years. They had a few adult children. Pillar of the church and community. And I have heard him introduce himself in thier presence as "a happily married gay man."
by Gadfly-in-Chief
Sat Jan 19, 2008 12:05 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Have you thought about your relationship with Freud lately?
Replies: 12
Views: 5267

Re: Have you thought about your relationship with Freud lately?

I've always wondered what it was in his relationship with his own mother that made him think everyone processed/experienced sexuality the way he thougght they did. I suppose it was as good a theory as any to get things going, but it's like heliocentric astronomy: it can explain some things, but it j...