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by Kez
Sun Mar 23, 2008 3:13 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: I'm A and that's OK!
Replies: 22
Views: 6358

Re: I'm A and that's OK!

That has got to be one of my favourite pick-up lines. No matter which way you answer, you're pretty much screwed. Figuratively, or literally.
by Kez
Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:25 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My brain is confusing me!
Replies: 8
Views: 3136

Re: My brain is confusing me!

Yes, but spin, the dom partner can either give or ask to recieve. Where as the sub usually would just follow orders (or something along those lines).

Why would it make sense for asexuals to be kinky? Because the sexual attraction isn't there, and thus other things appeal more, or something else?
by Kez
Tue Mar 18, 2008 12:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My brain is confusing me!
Replies: 8
Views: 3136

Re: My brain is confusing me!

Yes, I was thinking about the "asexual passiveness" = sub theory on the bus this morning, and it makes perfect sense. I think because we're not focused on ourselves - thus on the other person, and _their_ pleasure, it would make sense that we act submissively in bed. (I never thought I wou...
by Kez
Mon Mar 17, 2008 3:42 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My brain is confusing me!
Replies: 8
Views: 3136

My brain is confusing me!

This is all about me, so I'm sorry if I appear to be a little self centred. Up until a few years ago, I thought I was aromantic-asexual. Which was all fine and dandy by me, I was happy being single, and being alone and all that, even for the rest of my life. Then I started liking girls, which confus...
by Kez
Mon Mar 17, 2008 3:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 14613

Re: Relationships vs relationships.

Ooh, yes spins, that is a Relationship moment.
by Kez
Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:00 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Labeling: Descriptive vs Prescriptive
Replies: 31
Views: 12219

Re: Labeling: Descriptive vs Prescriptive

I have 3 "identities", so to speak. I'm Kerry, to my parents. Kez to other people, and Dawny to of my friends my age. While each person is still me, each person presents different aspects of myself. Dawny wouldn't talk about sex, masturbation, r vs R, and the like. Kerry would talk about q...
by Kez
Wed Jan 30, 2008 10:32 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Labeling: Descriptive vs Prescriptive
Replies: 31
Views: 12219

Re: Labeling: Descriptive vs Prescriptive

Oh, don't remind me about tree structures.

And damnit, I just made myself lose the game.
by Kez
Fri Jan 25, 2008 1:53 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: [Adult] Compromise in sexual/asexual relationships: ideas?
Replies: 51
Views: 31351

Re: Compromise in sexual/asexual relationships: ideas? [Adult]

What about being romantic/wooing her again? Cooking dinner, candles, having a bubble bath together...
by Kez
Fri Jan 25, 2008 12:42 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)
Replies: 29
Views: 12650

Re: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)

I love the book The Story of O , which is about a young lady who's lover takes her to Roissy, and teachs her about sadomasochism, and pretty much gives her to a friend of his to do whatever he wants to her. The writting is done really well, and although it's explicit (to a degree - it doesn't go on ...
by Kez
Fri Jan 25, 2008 12:36 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Mildly Sexual Experiences
Replies: 3
Views: 2567

Mildly Sexual Experiences

From another thread (Thanks whoever said that, I can't remember, but it's a good one!) I came cross this concept and thought it apt. Of course, our individual concepy of a mildly sexual experience will be different for each person, but here's mine. The other week, at a friends place, we were having ...
by Kez
Mon Jan 21, 2008 2:53 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What do you call your relationships?
Replies: 30
Views: 12159

Re: What do you call your relationships?

Omnes et Nihil wrote:
ghosts wrote:Inspired by some recent off-the-board discussions, I'm curious to know what people call some of their relationships.


*throws arms up in the air*

I give up. For now at least.


?

I call my relationships Sandy. And Robert.
by Kez
Sat Jan 19, 2008 6:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boundaries
Replies: 14
Views: 3924

Re: Boundaries

Are we talking about boundaries in relationships, or just boundaries in general? Over the past few weeks my boundaries have changed hugely. I never thought I would consider a touchy relationship, but with a, my toy, and b, the spa incident (which has no relevence to the toy!!!) my feelings have chan...
by Kez
Sat Jan 19, 2008 3:06 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: What do you call your relationships?
Replies: 30
Views: 12159

Re: What do you call your relationships?

Yes, for first introductions, a general biography as well.

Other times - it's "One of my friends, Emma and I ..." or simply "Emma and I ..."
by Kez
Sat Jan 19, 2008 3:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: A familial model of love.
Replies: 17
Views: 10542

Re: A familial model of love.

So by that reasonsing, then a best friend type relationship can never be a Relationship, because it lacks the sexual bonding? And a pair bond can only be romantic love joined? I'm not sure if I agree with you fully there. I do agree that the r vs R thead was mainly about semantics - I think we all _...
by Kez
Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is Blood thicker than Water?
Replies: 26
Views: 10141

Re: Is Blood thicker than Water?

True, bun. But my parents don't fight either, and they love each other (I think). I think it's more because all of us hate conflict... so we avoid it. I'd do anything for my family, but I think the "love" I'm thinking of (romantic love) doesn't really exist between siblings/parents. *scrat...
by Kez
Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:37 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is Blood thicker than Water?
Replies: 26
Views: 10141

Re: Is Blood thicker than Water?

I do get on well with my parents - it's really weird, because I'm part of the very few families (that I've heard about) that never argue or fight. We bicker (about the remote control, etc), but I can't imagine us ever fighting like you hear/see being talked about. That said and done, I don't "l...
by Kez
Sun Jan 13, 2008 8:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 14613

Re: Relationships vs relationships.

I'm still trying to figure it out in my brain, as well!

I'll think about it a bit more and try to write an essay type thing.
by Kez
Thu Jan 10, 2008 8:31 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 14613

Re: Relationships vs relationships.

I think the best way to describe the difference between a relationship and a Relationship is to draw parallels to the difference between liking someone, and liking liking them. It's very hard to put the difference into words, but people know (ooh, funky! You press the italic button and both tags com...
by Kez
Tue Jan 08, 2008 11:25 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 14613

Re: Relationships vs relationships.

But ultimately, you agree that a Relationship is different to a relationship? How would you describe a Relationship, and how would you describe a relationship?
by Kez
Tue Jan 08, 2008 11:14 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 14613

Re: Relationships vs relationships.

I told you it was confusing! Platonic as a non sexual affectionate relationship. I wouldn't call winter and Paul in a platonic relationship, because even though it fits, it's more, because they've made a commitment. I mean, once a friendship becomes a Relationship, the whole dynamic of everything ch...
by Kez
Tue Jan 08, 2008 10:48 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 14613

Re: Relationships vs relationships.

Yes, but then the friendship has changed into a Relationship. It's more the fact that a platonic friendship cannot become a platonic Relationship.
by Kez
Tue Jan 08, 2008 9:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 14613

Relationships vs relationships.

I was talking to Paul a few weeks ago, about the difference between a Relationship and a relationship. It's all very hard to put a finger on it, because it's more abstract thoughts and concepts... I felt that a Relationship was one where both/multiple partners agreed that they _were_ in a Relationsh...
by Kez
Tue Jan 08, 2008 9:33 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 19844

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

It sounds like you're a perfectly (cateperfectly?) normal human, spinny. In Relationships (note the capital), especially first Relationships, what you thought/felt how you would react might turn out to be the complete opposite. It sounds like you're happy, and that's the main thing, really. *Jealous...
by Kez
Tue Jan 08, 2008 4:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly
Replies: 51
Views: 33806

Re: Poly

A pee in the morning, or in the afternoon? These things matter! Re. Polyamorous, or polygamous, one is many loves, and the other is many lovers. I believe. I'm not sure if I actually like sex or not - I'm not repulsed, and I think I could cope with it, but at the same time, I can quite easily cope w...
by Kez
Tue Jan 08, 2008 3:07 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: General reactions
Replies: 39
Views: 12504

Re: General reactions

The people I've told have been pretty open to the idea. They all say that, looking back, that everything makes sense - that I didn't talk about anyone in that way at school, etc etc. Which is good. I tell people if it comes up in conversation. Most of my friends know that I like girls, but not all o...