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by Omnes et Nihil
Fri Apr 25, 2014 11:09 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: POC..persons of colour..what a silly name
Replies: 10
Views: 6948

Re: POC..persons of colour..what a silly name

*sigh* I didn't realise this conversation was happening here too. This whole thing started about the idea of dedicated spaces generally-- POC-only and trans*-only spaces were two that I named specifically because I wondered about a need for them. There were only a couple comments about the idea of a...
by Omnes et Nihil
Thu Apr 24, 2014 5:45 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Rotten Zucchinis Zine-- Call for submissions
Replies: 2
Views: 4107

Re: Rotten Zucchinis Zine-- Call for submissions

More labels than a fashion store...I got lost/lost interest I'm not really sure what you mean. (Maybe because I never go in fashion stores.) Anyway, it seems that people aren't ready yet to talk about zucchini violence, so this zine has ended up being something a lot more broad-- stuff that people ...
by Omnes et Nihil
Thu Feb 13, 2014 11:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Rotten Zucchinis Zine-- Call for submissions
Replies: 2
Views: 4107

Rotten Zucchinis Zine-- Call for submissions

Rotten Zucchinis —The Zine Have you ever had a relationship with your zucchini or a queerplatonic (QP) partnership end or go horribly wrong? So many of us in the ace world have been doing our important relationships without any road maps or “how-to” guides—these relationships aren't romantic relati...
by Omnes et Nihil
Thu Feb 13, 2014 11:14 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Asexuality in Men - Research
Replies: 11
Views: 7489

Re: Asexuality in Men - Research

My name is Maggie and I am an undergraduate psychology student at Northwestern University working in the Human Sexuality Lab. Our laboratory is interested in examining several psychological aspects of male asexuality. We have put together a survey, which takes about 15 minutes to complete. The link...
by Omnes et Nihil
Thu Jun 30, 2011 8:30 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Toronto Pride 2011: Sun July 3-- spread the word
Replies: 15
Views: 8505

Re: Toronto Pride 2011: Sun July 3-- spread the word

What does a set of activities by oversexed people have to do with asexuality? I don't want my sexual orientation to be a vermiform appendix on a bunch of shenanigans by people whose whole identity is wrapped up in their precious genitals. Self-respecting asexuals will avoid this event at all costs....
by Omnes et Nihil
Thu Jun 30, 2011 7:38 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Toronto Pride 2011: Sun July 3-- spread the word
Replies: 15
Views: 8505

Toronto Pride 2011: Sun July 3-- spread the word

FYI, Asexual Contingent in the Toronto Pride parade this year. Sunday, July 3rd, 2011 Meeting at 1:30pm on Bloor between Jarvis and Church Allies welcome (Signs provided, but people are welcome to bring their own too) This would be the frantic, last-minute attempt to increase our numbers. Please pas...
by Omnes et Nihil
Tue May 11, 2010 3:46 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Toronto Pride 2010
Replies: 1
Views: 1174

Toronto Pride 2010

I'm putting together an asexual contingent for Toronto Pride this year-- First ever asexual contingent: 1) Trans march, Fri. July 2nd, for trans and otherwise gendered asexuals and allies 2) Dyke march, Sat., July 3rd, for women and trans asexuals and allies 3) Pride parade, Sun. July 4th, for all a...
by Omnes et Nihil
Sat Sep 05, 2009 7:25 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality
Replies: 24
Views: 11050

Re: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality

Did anyone here ever NOT wonder if they were a "real" asexual? I ask because it seems so pervasive, and yet I can't remember ever doing this. Once I "officially" accepted that I was asexual, I don't recall having any serious doubts about it, even though I am far from "the i...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Sep 02, 2009 11:53 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Criticism of asexuality. Maybe there's something to them.
Replies: 17
Views: 10227

Re: Criticism of asexuality. Maybe there's something to them.

I think a lot of the alienation that asexual folk feel with respect to sexuality has to do with being different *in a way that is not understood*. People are different from other people in all sorts of ways. These don't all lead to alienation. This, but also the fact that asexual community is still...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Sep 02, 2009 11:48 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality
Replies: 24
Views: 11050

Re: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality

But I feel that there is something wrong with your history and that there is something about it that doesn't feel psychologically plausible. The next one is later (October 14, 2004), but the title is revealing: Am I really asexual? . Now, this person was new to asexuality. Because she is wondering ...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Sep 02, 2009 11:08 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality
Replies: 24
Views: 11050

Re: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality

However, when I left AVEN two years ago, despite the major media coverage (this was well after Montel and 20/20), the ideal presented by the media was common, but not the idea present on the community. To be honest, my observation from the community was that the "real" asexual was the per...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Sep 02, 2009 10:55 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality
Replies: 24
Views: 11050

Re: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality

Recently, I was extensively interviewed for an article on asexuality for the San Francisco Chronicle. However, when the piece appeared, I was totally absent from it. I wondered why this was, since I orchestrated a lot of what the piece talked about. But now I see...I wasn't "ideal" enough...
by Omnes et Nihil
Tue Sep 01, 2009 10:40 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality
Replies: 24
Views: 11050

reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality

Edit: I need to remove parts of this post because I want to submit something very loosely based on it for consideration by journal. Edit: I've added back in the parts that I had removed, so now it's all there as I'd initially written it (back in September 2009). This started out as a response to Pr...
by Omnes et Nihil
Tue Sep 01, 2009 10:15 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Criticism of asexuality. Maybe there's something to them.
Replies: 17
Views: 10227

Re: Criticism of asexuality. Maybe there's something to them.

What I'm going to say next may sound radical (perhaps because it might sound ultra conservative, and would thus be radical compared to the people I'm using to being around,) but I feel that it should be more of a mere trusim: social conformity is a basic human need. [...] My suspicion is that it is...
by Omnes et Nihil
Mon Sep 01, 2008 9:01 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines
Replies: 34
Views: 29354

Re: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines

I like this discussion (and I haven't been here in months I think... been busy). Just had to add... it seems the latent assumption of "temporary asexuality" as something necessarily problematic is itself part of the mess. We're working within the framework that asexuality as a permanent an...
by Omnes et Nihil
Tue May 20, 2008 3:00 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: friendship/romance question being discussed?
Replies: 6
Views: 3151

friendship/romance question being discussed?

I was wondering if people knew of places other than here and AVEN where people are talking about the friendship/romance distinction -- i.e. pondering the question what's the difference between a friend and a romantic partner... in some (preferably digital) way shape or form. (I'm also posting this o...
by Omnes et Nihil
Sun Mar 23, 2008 10:33 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My brain is confusing me!
Replies: 8
Views: 3108

Re: My brain is confusing me!

My personal thoughts on power roles are very gendered—I see myself as submissive to women and dominant to men. Wow. Oddly enough I don't think I've ever hear anyone articulate that before. That's ringing a bell, somewhere underwater. Just on a purely... I guess political-visceral level, I could nev...
by Omnes et Nihil
Sun Mar 23, 2008 10:04 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: More thoughts on the spaghetti monster
Replies: 8
Views: 2937

Re: More thoughts on the spaghetti monster

I realize the problems with the point about the nazis, I probably shouldn't have mentioned it. However, I'm still convinced that we're confusing conditional statements and biconditional statements. The argument, "if gay people can't change their sexual orientation, then it's ok to be gay."...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Mar 12, 2008 9:50 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: [Adult] Important Stuff to talk about with partners
Replies: 6
Views: 2856

Re: Important Stuff to talk about with partners [Adult]

Well, most of what you said*. [...] *Except the pro-choice part, but that's my personal view and beside the point. I don't really think it is beside the point. I do think it's important for partners to talk about where they personally stand on issues of informed choices and reproductive choices, an...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Mar 12, 2008 9:40 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: [Adult] Pregnancy risks and birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 12539

Re: [Adult] Pregnancy risks and birth control

Because more info can never hurt... An excellent site talking about 17 methods of birth control: http://www.cbca.ab.ca/Birth%20Control.htm Several points... 1) Awesome idea to talk to your partner about birth control 2) Fertility awareness is a good things to be used in conjunction with other types ...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Mar 12, 2008 9:12 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly
Replies: 51
Views: 33240

Re: Poly

But I also don't really think people are "born" either monogamous or polyamorous. Amusing almost entirely unrelated bit of trivia: there are two types of voles-- prairie voles and mountain voles. One is monogamous. The other is polygamous. The difference is 1 gene. Flipping that 1 gene sw...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Mar 12, 2008 9:01 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: More thoughts on the spaghetti monster
Replies: 8
Views: 2937

Re: More thoughts on the spaghetti monster

Arguing that sexual orientation (of any kind) genetic / learned / socialised / set in the womb / ordained by some higher power / otherwise caused... basically all boils down to accepting the premise: if people can be made heterosexual, they should be made heterosexual; and if people can't be made h...
by Omnes et Nihil
Sat Feb 23, 2008 1:53 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Reasons other than sexual attraction that people have sex
Replies: 16
Views: 33842

Re: Reasons other than sexual attraction that people have sex

My goodness, that really is quite a list. I wonder, how often do you think people realize what their motivations are at the time? I know I could make up a list of reasons I eat, and "I was hungry" would be up there but not the only reason, although most of the time, I think that's why I'm...
by Omnes et Nihil
Sat Feb 23, 2008 1:42 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sociability/Sexuality crossover
Replies: 23
Views: 9853

Re: Sociability/Sexuality crossover

Really those questions do little answer whether your introverted or extroverted, this one does though, it seems to be the quintessential question on the subject how do you feel about small talk . I have yet to meet an introvert who both enjoys it and is capable of it. I'm not convinced that there i...
by Omnes et Nihil
Sun Feb 17, 2008 4:04 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: sexual asexuals?
Replies: 18
Views: 9652

Re: sexual asexuals?

But when I tell myself that I can’t *really* be asexual, am I denying my own existence by denying the possibility of asexuality? Or am I denying the existence of the rest of the human population, since insisting that what I’m feeling can’t be different from what they’re feeling requires that what t...
by Omnes et Nihil
Thu Feb 14, 2008 12:05 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Who's got the power?
Replies: 29
Views: 8440

Re: Who's got the power?

2) The two very simplistic models for a "quantity compromise" are (a) for the partner with a higher level of desire to always initiate sex whenever they want it, and for the partner with a lower level of desire to say "yes" or "no" to limit frequency to a level they're...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Feb 13, 2008 11:48 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: What is hypo?
Replies: 17
Views: 4979

Re: What is hypo?

In most asexual discussions of HSDD, people tend to emphasize the point that low sex drive isn’t of itself a problem—it is only diagnosable if there is distress or interpersonal difficulties (and usually the distress part is emphasized, interpersonal difficulties played down.) While there is some v...
by Omnes et Nihil
Wed Feb 13, 2008 10:44 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: I'm A and that's OK!
Replies: 22
Views: 6314

Re: I'm A and that's OK!

Asexuality has never been a problem for me. I've never really cared much about fitting in or being "normal", and think that the way I am is the best way to be for me. I have always sort of "known" that I was asexual (although I am rather sheltered, and only really realized that ...
by Omnes et Nihil
Fri Feb 08, 2008 8:03 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 19623

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

I actually met someone in person and had a conversation on this very topic yesterday-- this particular person had been told repeatedly that he wasn't asexual on AVEN because he also described himself as celibate. [We were very unexpectedly introduced by someone who was "Oh my goodness, you're a...
by Omnes et Nihil
Fri Feb 08, 2008 7:44 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: The Storms model
Replies: 33
Views: 28752

Re: The Storms model

If you're interested, heterosexuality was invented in 1868 in Germany. Well, I don't know about School of Fish, but I'm interested. I'd like to hear more about this. Clearly, the statement is a little ironic. I don't for a moment mean that people didn't have romantic/sexual/legal partner relationsh...