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by Witch of Wapping
Mon Feb 02, 2009 8:04 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Meetup Theory
Replies: 28
Views: 8426

Re: Meetup Theory

OK, feeling all protective of London meets now... we do have upwards of a dozen people each time on a regular-ish date but London doesn't try (in this context) to represent anything other than itself, the city where I live, rather than a whole country. It's so big and complicated a city that lots of...
by Witch of Wapping
Mon Feb 02, 2009 4:52 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Asexual erasure
Replies: 17
Views: 9383

Re: Asexual erasure

Oh, good, Apositive lives, this is interesting! I’m having problem with my internet connection so I hope this works. I think the main way in which this is useful to me is Olivier’s original example – some of our sterner Aven kindred do challenge the credentials of those of us who muddy the waters – ...
by Witch of Wapping
Sun Nov 16, 2008 8:35 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Romantic attraction?
Replies: 31
Views: 11700

Re: Romantic attraction?

Ooh, great work in reviving discussions on apositive, Lehcar! I've been concerned lately about vocabulary and definitions in AVEN, because new people seem to come along, study the Wiki, and decide we have a more and more detailed vocabulary, where someone knows exactly what we mean by more and more ...
by Witch of Wapping
Sun Sep 07, 2008 3:29 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Meetup Theory
Replies: 28
Views: 8426

Re: Meetup Theory

I think meetups are very different from chapters mainly because they have a kind of "coming out" role for people encountering other asexuals off-line for the first time, who can be really nervous. For that reason, I feel quite protective of them on behalf of those people. They do lead to a...
by Witch of Wapping
Mon Aug 18, 2008 11:51 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: An awkward coming out story.
Replies: 3
Views: 1521

An awkward coming out story.

I should put this on Aven along with the other stories about identity struggles but I don’t want to run the gamut of what Aven would say. I don’t know what I expect Apositive to do with it; many people on Apositive are working out right now, in their twenties, how to have couple relationships while ...
by Witch of Wapping
Mon Aug 18, 2008 11:48 am
Forum: Announcements
Topic: New Admin Wanted
Replies: 11
Views: 5905

Re: New Admin Wanted

This is not an offer - I don't have any of those computer skills - but I notice this website is starting to be quiet and that makes me sad. I haven't posted here recently either, of course. (I try to get more engaged in "the other place" - I'm a meetup organiser so that gives me a role - b...
by Witch of Wapping
Mon Aug 18, 2008 11:41 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Are asexuals more likely to be bi?
Replies: 8
Views: 2844

Re: Are asexuals more likely to be bi?

I had to post because nobody had voted same sex at all! It's old news to anyone who knows me a bit but I identified as lesbian, and particularly lesbian feminist, since 1971, and it has been a much bigger part of my life than asexuality which I stumbled across as a community two years ago. I could s...
by Witch of Wapping
Mon May 26, 2008 7:17 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: What is sex?
Replies: 18
Views: 5224

Re: What is sex?

Interesting - and not a simple question at all (but spin, you knew that!). I realise that recently I posted a definition on Aven that included words similar to "with another person" (specifically excluding masturbation), but I think that's just a habit I've got into. It certainly isn't how...
by Witch of Wapping
Thu May 22, 2008 2:01 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Everything I Could Think Of
Replies: 14
Views: 3398

Re: Everything I Could Think Of

No, see, there's plenty of vowels in Ddraig Goch - and even enough in Annwna (Awnnwnna? Even I know all those Ns aren't proper Welsh? From "Annwn", the other world?) You just need to know a W in any language evolved from a double O or U and you pronounce it "oo". Welsh is actuall...
by Witch of Wapping
Sun May 04, 2008 8:22 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Romantic attraction?
Replies: 31
Views: 11700

Re: Romantic attraction?

Interesting - I think we're definitely talking about a range of different things, and that I agree with Spin, and disagree with Dargon, about the dizzying amount of subjectivity in the meanings anyone at all, "society" included, applies to the word "romantic". Anyway, society use...
by Witch of Wapping
Mon Apr 28, 2008 10:17 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Community Beyond Technology Conference
Replies: 4
Views: 1468

Re: Community Beyond Technology Conference

Hi Chlirissa. I really appreciate, and agree a lot with, what you say about the limitations of online communities. However, the conference idea has come up occasionally before and brings its own limitations. For one thing, although the majority of people on Aven are still North Americans, we really ...
by Witch of Wapping
Mon Apr 28, 2008 7:00 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Negativity, reactionary responses, etc.
Replies: 13
Views: 3250

Re: Negativity, reactionary responses, etc.

I've been really worried about Aven, because it's the site people first find. I keep remembering the thread Spin started over a year ago, when the membership shot up after one of the Montel broadcast showings. Spin, you were saying even then, I think, that Aven had changed because new people who are...
by Witch of Wapping
Wed Apr 16, 2008 1:11 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines
Replies: 34
Views: 26559

Re: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines

Yes, just language I think! I meant exploring something about myself that hadn't occurred to me before, because in the 35-ish years since I first came out as a 19 year old lesbian, there had been too much else going on.
by Witch of Wapping
Tue Apr 15, 2008 1:38 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines
Replies: 34
Views: 26559

Re: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines

I think this discussion, and acknowledgement of “fuzziness” is so important, and I keep drafting replies about myself and deleting them (I’m so awkward on forums that I write half my replies in Word first, does it show?). I agree with spin that we should at least be open to paying attention to what ...
by Witch of Wapping
Sun Apr 13, 2008 8:59 am
Forum: Feedback
Topic: love the site
Replies: 6
Views: 3483

Re: love the site

Oh fair enough - I don't know what to blog about either, or even how to blog or what blogging really is. Suppose I'm just a bit grumpy because after two years I still find working out how, or even if, I fit in the asexual community to be hard work - but I should say that somewhere else.
by Witch of Wapping
Sun Apr 13, 2008 1:57 am
Forum: Feedback
Topic: love the site
Replies: 6
Views: 3483

Re: love the site

I don't quite know how or where to say this, and don't want to overstate it but... Admin, I feel as if your most recent burst of enthusiastic work on the Knowledge Base has taken over rather. It might just be in terms of visual distractions. I know the Knowledge Base is all important for visibility,...
by Witch of Wapping
Mon Mar 31, 2008 11:20 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Legitimacy and Blurry Lines
Replies: 34
Views: 26559

Re: Is Asexuality Legitimate?

EGAD, I'm sorry you are so angry and don't think I understand all the reasons. As for your research, I have read all sorts of surreal professional "explanations" for deviations from the norm including attempts to blame either parent - I wasn't aware of fathers coming off worse, and was clo...
by Witch of Wapping
Tue Mar 25, 2008 12:46 pm
Forum: Blog Post Discussion
Topic: LGBTQQAILOLWTF?!
Replies: 16
Views: 11088

Re: [Blog Post Discussion] LGBTQQAILOLWTF?!

I think that in spite of the strangeness of galloping acronyms, we can't ever dictate a consensus on this stuff - it's down to that old liberal cliche, the right of self-definition. Yes, there is a difference between the range of labels about sex/gender identity (variations on trans, intersex and ge...
by Witch of Wapping
Sun Mar 02, 2008 5:34 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: More thoughts on the spaghetti monster
Replies: 8
Views: 2272

More thoughts on the spaghetti monster

I have to admit, reading Apositive has spoilt me for some of the repeated discussions on Aven, especially "nature/nurture", and all the people who want asexuality to be “genetic”. Quoting Omnes from the Poston and Baumle thread: “The real question though is why people are looking for a &qu...
by Witch of Wapping
Sat Feb 23, 2008 12:05 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: beyond 101: explaining nuance to the media and others
Replies: 11
Views: 6293

Re: beyond 101: explaining nuance to the media and others

In chronological order, after the basic "no sexual attraction thing": I usually start with the idea of romantic orientation. People can usually understand the idea of sexual attraction without the romantic component, so I start there-- then ask if they can picture reversing it. Oh, I like...
by Witch of Wapping
Sun Feb 17, 2008 4:33 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 11911

Re: Relationships vs relationships.

I know nobody posted in this thread for ages (Sorry! Necromancy is only a minor offence when the whole board is this new, right? :/ ) but I've been thinking about it a lot, though I'll probably repeat what has already been said. I'm certainly with those who want the boundary "line" between...
by Witch of Wapping
Sun Feb 17, 2008 3:56 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Broaching the topic of asexuality
Replies: 19
Views: 9588

Re: Broaching the topic of asexuality

I've only told friends (who tend to say "That's interesting" - it hasn't been a big deal) but no longer attempt Relationships, and can't imagine how that would go. I am conscious of the need to tell an ex-partner who is still a friend, and find myself fluffing it so that I get the words ri...
by Witch of Wapping
Sun Feb 17, 2008 3:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asex as safe word
Replies: 11
Views: 2938

Re: Asex as safe word

Well, no, it isn't or wasn't like that for me, though I can see how it could have been. The difference is that I really have come to asexuality later in life than that, and long after seeing myself as comfortably "older", with my couple-type relationships behind me. It was lesbianism and f...
by Witch of Wapping
Thu Feb 14, 2008 4:13 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 26715

Re: The rest of your identity

I've been lurking forever, and every now and then I breeze through this thread and try to work out which ones of myself I am tonight.. (does that belong in the labels thread? I think some of them started out as temporary, but the glue seized up and they stuck... the post-it notes metaphor doesn't wo...
by Witch of Wapping
Sun Jan 27, 2008 10:49 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Female orgasmic function
Replies: 15
Views: 4249

Re: Female orgasmic function

Keep in mind also... these are a group of (almost entirely heterosexual) British women with an average age of 50. This is still the generation of women who married at a time when it was illegal for a wife NOT to have sex with her husband (or more specifically, when it was legal for a husband to for...
by Witch of Wapping
Sat Jan 26, 2008 4:22 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: A familial model of love.
Replies: 17
Views: 9116

Re: A familial model of love.

I am dashing all over this board (in a lurking kind of way, strange mixed metaphor but there you go - ) trying to work out what I want to say before somebody else says it better, but also distracted by how all the threads entangle - anyway, might as well start here. I have no appropriate academic qu...
by Witch of Wapping
Sat Jan 26, 2008 4:10 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 20542

Re: Who are you?

I'm Wordwitch on Aven - thought I'd made that name up, but discover somebody else uses it for writing on the internet, so feel I have it slightly under false pretences. I'm Cerridwen on the Lesbian Asexuals board. I always thought I wouldn't have this many names, but now I do, and the Witch of Wappi...