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by Siggy
Tue Sep 15, 2009 1:40 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: A new theory of sexuality
Replies: 28
Views: 12323

Re: A new theory of sexuality

I don't speak for anyone else, but I for one feel pretty definitively aromantic. The line may be fuzzy, but I don't think I'm on the fuzzy part. I personally find that the aromantic/romantic distinction is an important one to make whenever I explain asexuality to people. If I only present myself as ...
by Siggy
Tue Sep 15, 2009 1:25 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: The concept of squish
Replies: 45
Views: 31834

Re: The concept of squish

I'm aromantic and I don't experience crushes or squishes. Because I don't experience crushes, entering a romantic relationship seems difficult, if not impossible for me. But even without squishes, I have no trouble making lots of good friends. Squishes seem a bit superfluous in that respect. That's...
by Siggy
Mon Sep 14, 2009 11:40 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: The concept of squish
Replies: 45
Views: 31834

Re: The concept of squish

I'm aromantic and I don't experience crushes or squishes. Because I don't experience crushes, entering a romantic relationship seems difficult, if not impossible for me. But even without squishes, I have no trouble making lots of good friends. Squishes seem a bit superfluous in that respect. That's ...
by Siggy
Thu Sep 10, 2009 7:36 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello
Replies: 9
Views: 2558

Re: Hello

Why do I keep getting accused of dry humor? Well, you kept on referring to yourself with a third person proper noun. You're telling me there's not even a little humorous intent behind this? :lol: Hi! I've read your column from time to time. My impression is that it's much more concise and informati...
by Siggy
Tue Sep 08, 2009 6:09 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello
Replies: 9
Views: 2558

Re: Hello

Hi! I've read your column from time to time. My impression is that it's much more concise and informative than the blogs. I also love the dry humor.
by Siggy
Tue Sep 08, 2009 5:41 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality
Replies: 24
Views: 11161

Re: reactionary politics and prescriptive asexuality

I only really skimmed this thread (it's so long!), but I would like to add two more ideas. First idea! We aren't just talking about one "ideal" asexual, but two! First is the "ideal" asexuality described by Omnes, and second is the "ideal" asexuality described by pretze...
by Siggy
Tue Sep 01, 2009 7:07 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: "I hate being asexual and want to change"
Replies: 29
Views: 21327

Re: "I hate being asexual and want to change"

So I was thinking... what about people who say, "I hate my biological sex, and want to change it"? I'm not terribly familiar with transgender issues, but I understand that not everyone thinks "Just accept it" is the proper response. What makes the situation different? Perhaps if ...
by Siggy
Tue Aug 25, 2009 9:31 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello!
Replies: 20
Views: 5161

Re: Hello!

Guys I think you missed the point of that example. INTJ or whatever says something about how you interact with people. How is this something you can hide from other people?
Dargon wrote:The situation had been solved in college, but it returned in "the real world."

I plan to stay in academia. :P
by Siggy
Mon Aug 24, 2009 6:57 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Criticism of asexuality. Maybe there's something to them.
Replies: 17
Views: 10326

Re: Criticism of asexuality. Maybe there's something to them.

On the main topic... Mislabeling is generally a bad thing, I think. All other things being equal, I would prefer that people have accurate labels rather than inaccurate labels. But there are degrees of wrongness. If someone in the 90s range was completely confused, and decided that they were asexual...
by Siggy
Mon Aug 24, 2009 6:42 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Criticism of asexuality. Maybe there's something to them.
Replies: 17
Views: 10326

Re: Criticism of asexuality. Maybe there's something to them.

I wonder if there are people who might feel sexual attraction/desire in the context of a close, loving relationship but don't otherwise, who only experience romantic attraction rarely and haven't yet had an experience of such a close relationship who might (mistakenly) consider themselves asexual. ...
by Siggy
Mon Aug 24, 2009 6:24 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello!
Replies: 20
Views: 5161

Re: Hello!

To be honest, my first impression was that this is all a bit silly. Particularly the part about "coming out" as gifted. Is "giftedness" really a binary, something you are or aren't? And what does it even mean to be hiding it? It sounds like "hiding" the fact that you ar...
by Siggy
Sat Aug 15, 2009 9:54 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 33621

Re: The rest of your identity

I am a physics student, skeptic, and atheist, in that order. One of my friends has told me that a lot of the things I say could be preceded by the words, "We physicists think that..." I don't think I would be quite as happy studying anything else. As for skepticism and atheism, I don't tal...
by Siggy
Thu Aug 13, 2009 8:40 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Desire vs. Attraction
Replies: 21
Views: 11195

Re: Desire vs. Attraction

I've never really gotten the impression that "sexual desire" had a single definition used by everyone on AVEN. It just seems like a vague amorphous concept to me. This could just be a matter of my own ignorance, but I think it's because not everyone is using the same definition. If I were ...
by Siggy
Mon Aug 03, 2009 3:11 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: "I hate being asexual and want to change"
Replies: 29
Views: 21327

Re: "I hate being asexual and want to change"

Uh, okay. In that case, the AVEN FAQs show amazing foresight! Even though it is seven years old, it hits all the major questions, and gives very brief but nuanced answers.
by Siggy
Sun Aug 02, 2009 7:53 pm
Forum: Blog Post Discussion
Topic: Why I’m a Sex-Positive Asexual
Replies: 11
Views: 47272

Re: Why I’m a Sex-Positive Asexual

Rokso, I think you misinterpreted what Karl said. Karl said that abstinence-only education is an excellent way to support unwanted pregnancies and STDs. It's a terrible way to avoid unwanted pregnancies and STDs. Isn't it great when you disagree with someone, but then later find out it was just a sm...
by Siggy
Sun Aug 02, 2009 7:42 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: "I hate being asexual and want to change"
Replies: 29
Views: 21327

Re: "I hate being asexual and want to change"

Is there any possible response to people who say things like, "I'm asexual, but I hate it and want to change"? Why does it seem so taboo to say, "Just accept it"? (Because that's all you really CAN do...) I think saying "Just accept it" is a perfectly reasonable respon...
by Siggy
Wed Jul 29, 2009 8:44 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: "Quality of life"
Replies: 21
Views: 10515

Re: "Quality of life"

Pretzelboy, how did you get to be so insightful? I wish I had thought of that. The clues were all there. So a "disorder" is a particular kind of problem which calls for a particular kind of solution. The nice thing about this, is that all the distinctions we've been talking about naturally...
by Siggy
Tue Jul 28, 2009 6:04 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: "Quality of life"
Replies: 21
Views: 10515

Re: "Quality of life"

I don't much idea that asexuality is a disorder if and only if it causes personal distress. It puts me in a bit of a pickle. If it were true, I'd be holding two contradictory beliefs: 1. I do not have a disorder. 2. Being aromantic is depressing to me. It could be that I really am holding two contra...
by Siggy
Mon Jul 27, 2009 11:42 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello all
Replies: 3
Views: 842

Hello all

Hi. I discovered the concept of asexuality through AVEN in... oh, April. After that time, I slowly but surely became convinced that I am asexual and aromantic. I am vaguely unhappy with this result; half wanting to accept it and half wanting to do something crazy-insane to change it. Maybe this is w...