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by fridayoak
Thu Oct 20, 2011 3:40 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Reviving Apositive
Replies: 61
Views: 32145

Re: Reviving Apositive

Whilst I'm not a big fan of AVEN (for many reasons) and I do see where you are coming from on certain issues michaels I think you are going to put a lot of people off by your style of posting. Personally I became a sort of Aromantic I guess for a while from about Christmas til recently (had one weir...
by fridayoak
Fri Feb 11, 2011 7:23 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: treatment of minorities
Replies: 23
Views: 11176

Re: treatment of minorities

I find it a bit odd that the owners of the alternative asexual forums (here, the asylum, cakegasm etc) don't seem to advertise/publicise their own sites on AVEN much. Surely if you want more visitors it'd help to mention your site a bit more.
by fridayoak
Mon Feb 07, 2011 8:05 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Survey finds 3rd of young Japanese men not interested in sex
Replies: 6
Views: 4908

Re: Survey finds 3rd of young Japanese men not interested in sex

I don't think it's just males like that there from what I've heard. My friend just got back from a year living in Japan and he was let's say frustrated by the fact that in his words "a lot of the Japanese girls there just didn't do shagging".
by fridayoak
Mon Feb 07, 2011 7:36 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: treatment of minorities
Replies: 23
Views: 11176

Re: treatment of minorities

Siggy, I had some very ugly run-ins with a hypercombative and fight-loving autistic person on Knights of the Shaded Triangle and am therefore not sympathetic to that subpopulation. It might be a case of the majority of autistic aces being very nice but only a few a**holes being vocal enough to be n...
by fridayoak
Fri Feb 04, 2011 9:20 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: the other kind of loneliness
Replies: 9
Views: 3805

Re: the other kind of loneliness

I've just started living on my own for the first time in my life at the age of nearly 29 (I don't mean I've just left my family home, I mean I now live alone with no flatmates) and loneliness and being alone is something I've been thinking about recently. I sort of made a new years resolution to try...
by fridayoak
Mon Jan 31, 2011 9:49 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: nocturnal erections
Replies: 4
Views: 1851

Re: nocturnal erections

I more often than not wake up in the morning with an erection but I 've only ever had a handful of sex-related dreams in my whole life.
by fridayoak
Mon Jan 31, 2011 6:34 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Benedict Cumberbatch on Alan Carr Show
Replies: 3
Views: 1809

Benedict Cumberbatch on Alan Carr Show

Did anyone else see Alan Carr ("Chatty Man") yesterday? I caught a bit of the Benedict Cumberbatch interview (who plays Sherlock in the recent BBC version) and as an example of some of the "weird things" members of the public come up and say to him he talked of a person thanking ...
by fridayoak
Fri Jan 07, 2011 7:49 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: the touchy-feely thread
Replies: 11
Views: 4575

Re: the touchy-feely thread

My parents got a new cat a few months ago and I saw her for the first time over Christmas. She is adorable so I cuddled her plenty, but I grew up with cats and was close to them but I struggle with other animals (dogs for example I was always scared of). But anyway in general, I only like hugs/cuddl...
by fridayoak
Sat Jan 01, 2011 5:23 am
Forum: Feedback
Topic: biweekly chat?
Replies: 7
Views: 3692

Re: biweekly chat?

Is biweekly twice a week or once every 2 weeks? I might join in if it was the latter but unlikely to keep up if the former. In general I don't use chat features, for all sorts of reasons.
by fridayoak
Tue Dec 21, 2010 9:22 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Plan B Ad
Replies: 23
Views: 16009

Re: Plan B Ad

Fair points. I guess I naively forget what society at large is like sometimes, living in my own little bubble most of the time. I shouldn't be surprised by the rabble-rousing on AVEN, but I guess when you see it played out on your computer screen in front of your eyes it makes it particularly frustr...
by fridayoak
Mon Dec 20, 2010 9:50 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Plan B Ad
Replies: 23
Views: 16009

Re: Plan B Ad

And you let all your friends know about it and tell them to let their friends know about it, who let all of their friends know about it, and then a whole lot of people are writing in. I guess this is what annoys me a bit. People on AVEN are like sheep, a couple of people tell them how angry and off...
by fridayoak
Sat Dec 18, 2010 3:32 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Plan B Ad
Replies: 23
Views: 16009

Re: Plan B Ad

I just went on AVEN to check the reaction and they are going crazy about it, David Jay is doing some public facebook campaign to get the ad removed and all-sorts. Maybe it's just me being apathetic to the whole asexual "cause" but frankly I find the posts on the AVEN thread about it to be ...
by fridayoak
Sat Dec 18, 2010 2:03 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Plan B Ad
Replies: 23
Views: 16009

Re: Plan B Ad

I actually thought it was fairly amusing, I suppose if you just read the text-part at the end I could see why it might be deemed offensive but in context it's fine. I think the girl had good comic timing. It was certainly one of the better adverts I've seen recently, but that's not exactly saying mu...
by fridayoak
Sat Dec 18, 2010 1:53 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Could you love/have a relationship with a mtf/ftm asexual?
Replies: 52
Views: 22760

Re: Could you love/have a relationship with a mtf/ftm asexual?

Queer was definitley used an insult a lot at school and stuff when I was growing up in London, well "queer-boy" was more common. In fact any word that meant gay was an insult, come to think about it. I think faggot is common now due to it coming over from America but I never heard it much,...
by fridayoak
Thu Nov 18, 2010 12:28 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Unsure new person, finding my way
Replies: 5
Views: 2026

Re: Unsure new person, finding my way

Go back ten years, reverse the sexes and that story could be mine. As a teenager I had a girlfriend who I didn't want kissing me let alone anything sexual (I couldn't even think about it). So I knew I was different but as I got older I decided I wanted to change so I decided to sort of force myself ...
by fridayoak
Thu Nov 18, 2010 12:08 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hi guys!
Replies: 4
Views: 1723

Re: Hi guys!

Hi Jhanniffy, welcome to Apositive. Coming to terms with your (a)sexuality can be a difficult process, personally I still have some days even now where I wish I was a "normal sexual person" but overall I'm happy being me and finding out about asexuality has given me the label that most acc...
by fridayoak
Wed Nov 17, 2010 11:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How many rebound relationships does a recently divorcee have
Replies: 8
Views: 4924

Re: How many rebound relationships does a recently divorcee have

I figured it wasn't for real cos there was no welcoming post so its an odd first post for someone to make.

But it just happened to coincide with exactly how I'd been feeling this week and the sort of things that were going on in my head. So a spammer, but one with good timing at least :clap:
by fridayoak
Tue Nov 16, 2010 3:26 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How many rebound relationships does a recently divorcee have
Replies: 8
Views: 4924

Re: How many rebound relationships does a recently divorcee have

I've never been married but I've had this happen to me, albeit subconsciously, as I've entered new relationships seemingly at ease with the previous one's demise only for when the next relationship ends I find myself missing my previous partner rather than the one I've just finished with. It's happe...
by fridayoak
Sun Nov 14, 2010 4:06 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: General Culture Stuff
Replies: 2
Views: 1410

Re: General Culture Stuff

Check out all the Nick Broomfield documentaries on Ch4 (I guess they're all up on 4od or youtube). There's the Aileen Wuornos serial killer woman ones, the cribs and the bloods, the kurt kobain death, and I think he did one about the Chinese cockle pickers too though that might be someone else plus ...
by fridayoak
Tue Oct 19, 2010 6:05 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Why do I get the feeling this is a bad idea?
Replies: 33
Views: 10946

Re: Why do I get the feeling this is a bad idea?

It's also worth noting that the previous PT took some flack for, in some cases, being dismissive of the entire flag idea - the point being we're supposed to support other people's projects and leave our personal opinions and preferences out of the equation. It's somewhat ironic therefore that the c...
by fridayoak
Mon Oct 18, 2010 4:56 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Why do I get the feeling this is a bad idea?
Replies: 33
Views: 10946

Re: Why do I get the feeling this is a bad idea?

I haven't noticed anything about it on AVEN so far but the thought of doing so makes me feel a bit queasy as it all sounds so ridiculous. The PT has had a complete overhaul in personel since the flag fiasco so they shouldn't be judged on that failure but frankly this does sound very bizarre. I hope ...
by fridayoak
Mon Oct 18, 2010 8:42 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Why do I get the feeling this is a bad idea?
Replies: 33
Views: 10946

Re: Why do I get the feeling this is a bad idea?

A mascot? That sounds very weird. Is AVEN bidding to host the Olympics or something. I can see some benefits of a flag with regards visibility but not sure what the point of a mascot is. What's it gonna be? An anime version of Doctor Who's trans-gendered cat?...eating cake.
by fridayoak
Thu Oct 14, 2010 5:21 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: In-love with a self-described hypersexual.
Replies: 10
Views: 7321

Re: In-love with a self-described hypersexual.

Personally (and I've been in relationships with "hypersexuals") I wouldn't bother with blogs and labels, you don't even need to mention the word "asexual". Just use clear language and tell your partner what you like, what you don't like (or might like/not like), what you're comfo...
by fridayoak
Wed Oct 13, 2010 3:42 am
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why are sexual thoughts called 'dirty'?
Replies: 12
Views: 7386

Re: Why are sexual thoughts called 'dirty'?

Actually I do find brussel sprouts pretty repulsive but it's the smell as well so it's impossible to avoid if other people in your house are cooking and eating them. Luckily the only time I have this problem is when I'm back home on Christmas Day; my Mum cooks them cos my Dad likes them. So I guess ...
by fridayoak
Fri Oct 08, 2010 3:01 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Heya All...
Replies: 5
Views: 1656

Re: Heya All...

Hi GreenMouse, welcome to Apositive!

No cake but there's plenty of alcohol if you're that way inclined (believe me I am!)
by fridayoak
Fri Oct 08, 2010 2:59 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why are sexual thoughts called 'dirty'?
Replies: 12
Views: 7386

Re: Why are sexual thoughts called 'dirty'?

My ex (who is sexual) had a sort of phobia about oral sex in that she thought it was dirty (like literally unhygenic) for me to go down on her. She also used to change her knickers 2 or 3 days a time, like if she went anywhere she'd carry a spare pair with her. I never completely understood it but s...
by fridayoak
Thu Oct 07, 2010 5:17 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Aromantic Forum
Replies: 21
Views: 13843

Re: Aromantic Forum

I can see why aromantics would want their own forum cos even I as a romantic asexual get fed up reading post by all the frustrated romantics on AVEN. All the whining really does get a bit tiresome but then I again I also think they might run out of things to talk about pretty quickly.
by fridayoak
Tue Oct 05, 2010 2:39 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Jeremy kyle show
Replies: 8
Views: 4185

Re: Jeremy kyle show

Ah that Trisha thing was ok, I did "lol" at the dogging guy's "rather shoot my head off" comment and that fat woman was a bit thick but Mark handled it well and good old Trisha wrapped it up quite nicely.
by fridayoak
Fri Oct 01, 2010 7:35 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Arriving from aven
Replies: 14
Views: 6842

Re: Arriving from aven

Sorry Kagu I misunderstood what you were saying with regards to Poly, I've edited that stuff out.


(And do you mean my statement doesn't make much sense grammatically, or yours? cos I did write it in a hurry)
by fridayoak
Fri Oct 01, 2010 1:58 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Arriving from aven
Replies: 14
Views: 6842

Re: Arriving from aven

Welcome to Apositive debiguity. I do agree with Kagu about not liking (or completely understanding) romantic/aromantic division (the romanctic binary?) I always though "aromantic" was similar to being asexual, in that they simply don't experience "romantic attraction" but I guess...