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by ily
Tue Apr 07, 2009 3:42 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Desert Island
Replies: 13
Views: 3156

Desert Island

(Not to be confused with dessert island...mmm) I think I can do one more of these now before people start feeling like they're on a weird first date. ;) So, does anyone else try to figure out what 5 albums are their "desert island" choices? I guess it's sort of like your all-time favorites...
by ily
Tue Apr 07, 2009 3:27 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: What utensil would you be?
Replies: 28
Views: 9263

Re: What utensil would you be?

Yeah, I couldn't get a basic job at a video store (and I was a college student at the time) because I failed the unicru test (although I had sucessfully worked in retail prior to that). As you can imagine, I don't like having my personality assessed by not-so-benevolent forces. There are websites th...
by ily
Sun Apr 05, 2009 6:25 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: What utensil would you be?
Replies: 28
Views: 9263

Re: What utensil would you be?

Hmm, we've got a diverse group here. ;) I think it might be a geographic thing (apparently, interviewers in the US like to find out a lot more about your personality than in other countries), and also depend on the industry (like, I can't imagine investment bankers asking this). I have to say, I muc...
by ily
Sat Apr 04, 2009 3:54 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: What utensil would you be?
Replies: 28
Views: 9263

What utensil would you be?

So, we definitely need more off-topic threads up in here.
Apparently, people are now asking "What utensil would you be?" in job interviews now. I've never heard this, but I wish I had, because I actually have an answer: Chopsticks. How about you?
by ily
Thu Apr 02, 2009 9:32 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sociability/Sexuality crossover
Replies: 23
Views: 9849

Re: Sociability/Sexuality crossover

I have a bad habit of generally taking these are real questions (which they may or may not be.) In linguistics, there are referred to as phatic expressions. (Wikipedia has a good article on phatic communication .) You could try to not answer the question and instead give another phatic question. A:...
by ily
Wed Apr 01, 2009 2:36 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sociability/Sexuality crossover
Replies: 23
Views: 9849

Re: Sociability/Sexuality crossover

Noskcaj.Llahsram wrote:... but most of the time nothing is "new" so all the question is is a reminder of how my day to day life is disappointing at that point


THIS. I hate "What's new?", especially when it's asked by people I talk to often. I feel stupid saying "nothing". :|
by ily
Mon Mar 30, 2009 9:13 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Meetup Theory
Replies: 28
Views: 9988

Re: Meetup Theory

Cool! I need to lurk on the Spanish boards...and post once I figure out how to do accents and stuff on my computer. ;) Time and place...that depends. Sometimes it works better for one person to just declare a reasonable place and time, publisize it to everyone else, and see who shows up. I know that...
by ily
Mon Mar 23, 2009 6:52 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello from Spain
Replies: 5
Views: 1453

Re: Hello from Spain

Welcome! And hurray for Spain...I've been there twice. <3
by ily
Mon Mar 23, 2009 6:50 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hey - a bit of a first time confession about me...
Replies: 5
Views: 1743

Re: Hey - a bit of a first time confession about me...

Welcome! Was this the show on BBC3? Don't worry, I think most of us are kind of confused when we first discover asexuality. I realized I was ase about 4 years ago. I was actually pretty worried about it at the time, for similar reasons to you. But now, I'm fine with it-- it takes time. I think what'...
by ily
Sun Mar 15, 2009 9:24 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Asexual Clubs
Replies: 7
Views: 3804

Re: Asexual Clubs

That's awesome, I'm surprised that Smith has enough people to do that. I'm impressed.

I do like dance clubs sometimes, but I usually don't approve of the music ;)
by ily
Tue Mar 10, 2009 1:24 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Zines!
Replies: 20
Views: 6959

Re: Zines!

If you want to include them, you could always ask people to write a 1-scentence bio and submit it with their writing. I've seen other publications do that.
by ily
Tue Mar 10, 2009 12:55 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Zines!
Replies: 20
Views: 6959

Re: Zines!

It's funny, I'm actually writing something as we speak. I'm bored at work, had an idea and thought I'd run with it while it was in my head. Yeah, the parade's at the end of June, so I could definitely write a report for the summer issue. There could be photos! ;) I'm not sure what I'll say before th...
by ily
Tue Mar 10, 2009 9:11 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Zines!
Replies: 20
Views: 6959

Re: Zines!

I got the zine in the mail yesterday, and I just want to say that it looks FANTASTIC! The design is so professional. I think the mission of getting more things out into the paper world is a great one. I was psyched to see my poem in print. (It's funny, I don't remember now why I used my nom de plume...
by ily
Sun Mar 08, 2009 1:00 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Videos
Replies: 5
Views: 1734

Re: Videos

pretzelboy wrote:Whenever I see the term "the asexual," it conjures up images of something like a nature documentary; the narrator is saying, "Observe the asexual female in her natural habitat," as we are shown her in her apartment making herself dinner.


I actually really like that idea.
by ily
Fri Mar 06, 2009 10:19 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Videos
Replies: 5
Views: 1734

Re: Videos

I've secretly always thought there should be a TV show about my daily life. Cult classic in the making. :shhh:
by ily
Fri Mar 06, 2009 10:56 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Atype
Replies: 4
Views: 1309

Re: Atype

Welcome, fellow musician/artist/poet! Hopefully with increased visibility and discussion of these topics, we can minimize that ignorance and shame that you mention.
by ily
Thu Mar 05, 2009 2:00 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Don't knock it til you try it!
Replies: 23
Views: 12469

Re: Don't knock it til you try it!

Nah, it doesn't sound bad. As one of those "I know I won't like sex" people who also agrees with what you're saying, I'm just trying to get inside those peoples' heads a bit, try to see why the misunderstanding occured. One issue with AVEN is that it has such a wide scope: People can vent ...
by ily
Thu Mar 05, 2009 11:05 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Don't knock it til you try it!
Replies: 23
Views: 12469

Re: Don't knock it til you try it!

Aah, the internet ate my brilliant post! :'( Anyway, of course, I don't think you're suggesting that people randomly try sex, ghosts. Maybe we need to find some way to put across this point that doesn't sound so much like what family and friends who don't understand tell us. Because we do understand...
by ily
Wed Mar 04, 2009 8:46 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Don't knock it til you try it!
Replies: 23
Views: 12469

Re: Don't knock it til you try it!

If you like sex, then obviously asexuality isn't about liking sex in your case. But if someone doesn't like sex, that may fold into asexuality in their situation. As for me, I don't say that I'll never have sex. I'm open to the possibility, but I'm also realistic: In my current life, it isn't going ...
by ily
Tue Mar 03, 2009 5:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: poly, self-centered ness, privacy and social roles
Replies: 8
Views: 3721

Re: poly, self-centered ness, privacy and social roles

Okay, old thread, but what the heck! ;) I haven't been in a romantic relationship, but I do like to talk and gossip about other peoples'. So I can only imagine that if I had one, I wouldn't be very private about it. That said, I don't think I behave like other females ever, let alone at parties. Do ...
by ily
Fri Feb 27, 2009 9:13 pm
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Joint Meetups
Replies: 5
Views: 1594

Re: Joint Meetups

Celibate people have groups? That's new to me, unless it's monks or nuns.
by ily
Fri Feb 27, 2009 10:52 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Videos
Replies: 5
Views: 1734

Videos

For a long time, I've really wanted to make videos about asexuality. I know I'm not the only one who thinks this is a good idea. However, I have no video equipment and no knowledge of filming and editing (Writing, directing, acting and music I can do, though). The hard part, I think, is getting peop...
by ily
Fri Feb 27, 2009 10:43 am
Forum: Community & Public Visibility
Topic: Joint Meetups
Replies: 5
Views: 1594

Joint Meetups

I was having dinner with my dad yesterday, and he asked me how AVEN meeutps were going (I guess he's kind of cool, all things considered). I said I wasn't doing them as well as I'd like since I've been super stressed out at work, but that's neither here nor there. Anyhoo, he suggested that we do joi...
by ily
Thu Feb 26, 2009 4:29 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asexuality in the Field
Replies: 2
Views: 1837

Re: Asexuality in the Field

Obviously this is a thoughtful post that needs some responses, but I'm not quite sure what to say. Probably because I've never been in the "presumably-sexual person wants to explore forming a close relationship with you, and you are interested also" situation. Not saying I've never wanted ...
by ily
Tue Feb 24, 2009 2:00 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Moving House
Replies: 14
Views: 4727

Re: Moving House

I feel ya...I moved last month. It wasn't THAT bad, because it was only across town, and I had my family to come and help. But it's amazing how much I accumulate, especially clothes and various papers. My worst experiences were definitely moving out of my dorm room at the end of the year at college,...
by ily
Tue Feb 24, 2009 1:47 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Asexual erasure
Replies: 17
Views: 11033

Re: Asexual erasure

<i> "If you do this and that just like us, then you are one of us...". <i> The funny thing is, asexuals who have sex or masturbate aren't doing it just like sexual folks. But that's the issue of behavior vs. intent again. No, I don't think people should have to choose a sexual orientation....
by ily
Mon Feb 23, 2009 10:05 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Me, me, me
Replies: 6
Views: 1943

Re: Me, me, me

My zine's called "Adventures in Unemployment"-- making it definitely helped to keep me somewhat sane during my unemployment. I'm employed now but I still want to do another volume at some point.
by ily
Fri Feb 20, 2009 2:36 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Me, me, me
Replies: 6
Views: 1943

Re: Me, me, me

Yay, zines! I made my first one over the summer. We had a zinefest here in SF and I was totally inspired to go for it.
I guess you may not want to say what bands you're in, but I'm really curious!
by ily
Fri Feb 20, 2009 2:30 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Things Asexuals Like
Replies: 16
Views: 8521

Re: Things Asexuals Like

God knows I do love LOLcats...asexual or sexual, it's definitely something you either love or don't understand at all. Even my 60-year-old mom speaks in LOLspeak. Nom nom nom!
by ily
Thu Feb 12, 2009 4:27 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Things Asexuals Like
Replies: 16
Views: 8521

Re: Things Asexuals Like

I can't imagine tweed would be very useful in Dallas... ;)
But yeah, I'm definitely one of those people who just has to like the most unpopular, obscure thing possible. :/ Maybe that's why I have trouble continuing this series.