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by ily
Wed May 21, 2008 3:48 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asking for support/who's on your list?
Replies: 20
Views: 7923

Re: Asking for support/who's on your list?

That's a good question. It's a big problem for me. I am constantly telling my mom about my various issues, but I know she has her own and I don't want to be a burden on her. I try to tell my friends, with varying degrees of success. I've always been a fairly secretive person, so asking for help is k...
by ily
Wed May 21, 2008 3:45 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Have you thought about your relationship with Freud lately?
Replies: 12
Views: 5579

Re: Have you thought about your relationship with Freud lately?

I think Freud has probably been more harmful to queer people than anyone else I can think of.
by ily
Tue May 13, 2008 11:11 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Ignorant Masses!
Replies: 6
Views: 2117

Re: Ignorant Masses!

Thanks Emma...I try to work hard on visibility, but at the same time, I don't want to overwhelm myself with the idea that I can somehow reach *everyone*. It makes me feel better when individuals go "hey, I learned something!" but sometimes I wonder how much of an impact I can really make. ...
by ily
Mon May 12, 2008 7:44 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Ignorant Masses!
Replies: 6
Views: 2117

Re: Ignorant Masses!

Obviously, it astounds me too, Olivier. 8| I question everything, and I find it hard to understand people who won't do that. In America, I think most moms would be thrilled to see a dad with his kids at the park. They'd find it sweet, you know? What an odd playground... :think:
by ily
Mon May 12, 2008 7:40 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Is there anyone who doesn't have any desire to be with...
Replies: 9
Views: 4692

Re: Is there anyone who doesn't have any desire to be with...

I don't really understand romance. I've never "been in love" and don't know if I'll ever be. Romantic movies seem like science fiction to me. If one person fixated all their attention on me, I think I'd be scared. Unless it was my child, I think it would be strange. But I do want companio...
by ily
Mon May 12, 2008 6:51 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Ignorant Masses!
Replies: 6
Views: 2117

Ignorant Masses!

Hi...I'm bringing up an issue that I've never heard discussed, and I'd really like some input on it. In short, the ignorant masses really bother me to the point of distraction. When someone makes a false statement about asexuality, even if I don't know the person, it upsets me. For as long as I can ...
by ily
Mon May 12, 2008 6:08 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: It's not about the act
Replies: 10
Views: 4318

Re: It's not about the act

It's interesting, it seems like at the beginning of every "new" orientation, it's always all about the sex (act). For example, when people were first starting to identify as lesbians, the mainstream communities thought lesbianism was all about crazy, exotic sex, and that's it. But, the les...
by ily
Mon May 12, 2008 6:02 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Is there anyone who doesn't have any desire to be with...
Replies: 9
Views: 4692

Re: Is there anyone who doesn't have any desire to be with...

I don't really understand romance. I've never "been in love" and don't know if I'll ever be. Romantic movies seem like science fiction to me. If one person fixated all their attention on me, I think I'd be scared. Unless it was my child, I think it would be strange. But I do want companion...
by ily
Mon May 12, 2008 5:55 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: How can you really, really be sure if you are asexual?
Replies: 16
Views: 8370

Re: How can you really, really be sure if you are asexual?

At a certain point, all sexual orientations become arbitrary. Labels are all broad and very general. Most straight people have some gay feelings at times, a lot of A people will have sex at some point, etc. I wish I could say that there's an orientation out there that will fit you 100% perfectly, bu...
by ily
Mon May 05, 2008 3:05 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Everything I Could Think Of
Replies: 14
Views: 5051

Re: Everything I Could Think Of

Wow, this is great!
by ily
Wed Mar 19, 2008 11:55 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Article for teens-- feedback please!
Replies: 5
Views: 2213

Re: Article for teens-- feedback please!

Thanks for that, Cijay-- "possibilities" is indeed a better word to use there. And I agree with your point on professionals as well (I've had pretty good experiences myself, but that could be 'cause I live in San Francisco), so I will see if there's a natural place to fit it in.
by ily
Fri Mar 14, 2008 6:40 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Article for teens-- feedback please!
Replies: 5
Views: 2213

Re: Article for teens-- feedback please!

Thank you! That 5th question is a very good idea...
by ily
Thu Mar 13, 2008 8:30 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Article for teens-- feedback please!
Replies: 5
Views: 2213

Article for teens-- feedback please!

So, I found an article in "Seventeen" magazine called "Could I be gay?", and thought I could write a similar piece about asexuality, and probably do a better job as well. ;) So, I wrote it, and I want to submit it to various websites that deal with informing teens about sex. I'm ...
by ily
Wed Feb 27, 2008 6:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sociability/Sexuality crossover
Replies: 23
Views: 10173

Re: Sociability/Sexuality crossover

Extremely good question, and one I struggle with. I sometimes do feel like a "bi" introvert/extrovert. I hate small talk, but always thought this was because of my autistic tendencies. However, I don't like being alone and, except for a small amount of recharge time, would be glad to spend...
by ily
Sun Feb 24, 2008 2:59 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reactions to loss...
Replies: 19
Views: 7961

Re: Reactions to loss...

I was that friend, Ily. Considering your location, that's actually a little eerie. :think: If you don't mind me asking, what scares you about getting in touch with your old friends? I'm trying to think of what exactly scares me about it, but it's hard to pin down, besides the fact that I hate talki...
by ily
Sun Feb 24, 2008 11:37 am
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: ooh, somebody noticed
Replies: 10
Views: 3828

Re: ooh, somebody noticed

Placebo wrote:Kudos (or cake) to you too, Ily--didn't Figleaf find apositive through your blog? That is awesome!


He did! Thank you!
by ily
Sat Feb 23, 2008 10:32 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: The desexualization of people with disabilities
Replies: 4
Views: 3831

Re: The desexualization of people with disabilities

Yes indeed. I wouldn't even know if people are desexualizing me, since being on the autistic spectrum means I don't catch many of those things. :scratch: But I definitely feel that being "disabled" (I hate that word, since I can do anything other people can, just sometimes in a slightly di...
by ily
Sat Feb 23, 2008 10:27 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reactions to loss...
Replies: 19
Views: 7961

Re: Reactions to loss...

*fortifying pat*. I know what you mean. I lost one of my best friends, who had some kind of mental breakdown and then never wanted to talk to any of us again. I hope we can reconnect someday, but it's been really hard not having her in my life. Loss blows. :sigh:
by ily
Sat Feb 23, 2008 10:24 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: ooh, somebody noticed
Replies: 10
Views: 3828

Re: ooh, somebody noticed

Mr. Paradox wrote:
As many commentators before, he concludes that "in a lot of ways asexuals are the best people to learn about human sexuality (though not so much the ins and outs of actual sex.)"


Oh, I totally agree with that, modesty be damned. ;)
by ily
Sat Feb 09, 2008 12:19 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Beyond Presidential Primaries
Replies: 6
Views: 2497

Re: Beyond Presidential Primaries

Gadfly-in-Chief wrote:Our primary is Tuesday, and Imma gonna Ba-rock the vote.........


Hee, I already did. :D He's not perfect by any means, but at least he's relatively new blood...which I think we sorely need.
(Obama yo mama! :dance: )
by ily
Tue Jan 29, 2008 9:00 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why not have sex?
Replies: 25
Views: 8742

Re: Why not have sex?

We seem to have re-opened the prime question of our critics in the media: if sex means nothing to us, why not just have it? I'm coming from a similar mindset-- not repulsed, but no desire to experiment with sex. To me, when our critics tell us to just go have sex, that's such a double-standard. The...
by ily
Sat Jan 26, 2008 10:42 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: The Storms model
Replies: 33
Views: 29241

Re: The Storms model

Of the various models I've seen, this one makes the most sense to me thus far. Thanks for posting! I love asexual history. <3
by ily
Thu Jan 24, 2008 10:06 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly
Replies: 51
Views: 35018

Re: Poly

I'd be open to the idea as well, but if the other two people were sexual, I could see myself getting jealous of their closeness and feeling like a third wheel. That's just me; I'm a jealous person. Anyway, it's hard enough to find one person to be in "a relationship" with, let alone two or...
by ily
Thu Jan 24, 2008 9:57 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 28374

Re: Who are you?

I'm Ily on AVEN, Ily here, and even Ily in "real life". I'm not good at being creative with my online personae. :halo: I have a blog that I like to consider "advanced asexuality" (or at least mid-level!) so I'm interested in seeing what goes on here.