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by Dargon
Sun Mar 02, 2008 8:36 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 14604

Re: Relationships vs relationships.

spin wrote:New criterion: it's a Relationship when he asks if you'd like to meet his folks.


Wow, in that case I am such a whore.
by Dargon
Sun Mar 02, 2008 2:13 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: [Adult] Pregnancy risks and birth control
Replies: 17
Views: 12630

Re: Compromise in sexual/asexual relationships: ideas? [Adult]

I'm curious as to these horror stories. Any way I can think of to get pregnant would require the sperm getting into the vagina, and I can really see no way for that to accidentally happen. (Just an intersting aside, the males "pre-cum," the mostly-spermless excretions of cowper's fluid, do...
by Dargon
Sat Mar 01, 2008 5:14 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Sex and Physiology
Replies: 4
Views: 1554

Re: Sex and Physiology

*Entire post may be TMI* I'm tempted to try to ejaculate without orgasm, see if I can do it. One thing, though, that may have factored in. Generally, one can feel when they are about to ejaculate. It has been my experience that fighting back the ejaculation builds a stronger orgasm. It would make se...
by Dargon
Wed Feb 20, 2008 5:19 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sociability/Sexuality crossover
Replies: 23
Views: 9967

Re: Socibility/Sexuality crossover

As Olivier said "I'm completely happy and comfortable with [being alone] - yet being with my wife is better", I would characterize this as a classic extrovert response. A more introverted person might say "I'm completely happy and comfortable with [being alone]- being with my wife is...
by Dargon
Fri Feb 15, 2008 5:10 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asex as safe word
Replies: 11
Views: 4118

Re: Asex as safe word

Dargon, I'm not going to push you to talk about your revelation if you're not comfy :shifty: , but I'd like to hear more if you want to share. :halo: Ok, I shall explain, at risk of dragging this off topic and possibly getting a bit controvercial. This is a two part revelation: Part one: So, as peo...
by Dargon
Thu Feb 14, 2008 5:33 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asex as safe word
Replies: 11
Views: 4118

Re: Asex as safe word

While I do not believe coming out as asexual is solely responsible, I have found myself over the past couple of years more willing to be social and even playfully flirtatious with people. Mind you in the past five years I've gone from being almost a complete shut in to being rather social, but perha...
by Dargon
Thu Feb 14, 2008 5:29 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Broaching the topic of asexuality
Replies: 19
Views: 10866

Re: Broaching the topic of asexuality

1) Pardon my ignorance, but what is CF? I am rather certain you are not talking about counter force springs. what is the deal with Rocky Horror Picture Show , I mean its good and funny but great and hilarious as eveyone thinks it is. You have to go to a live performace with people who know the callo...
by Dargon
Thu Feb 07, 2008 8:40 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Beyond Presidential Primaries
Replies: 6
Views: 2421

Re: Beyond Presidential Primaries

Unfortunately, I lack the funding and engineering expertise for my creative solutions. They are: 1) self sufficient floating island. 2) self sufficient undersea station 3) self sufficient space ship As you said, School of Fish, under our current system, we give power to our elected officials, and th...
by Dargon
Wed Feb 06, 2008 4:14 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Poston and Baumle 2005
Replies: 20
Views: 7684

Re: Poston and Baumle 2005

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/06/03/science/03cell.html

Musch simpler than human sexual behavior, but none the less does point to there being at least some genetic component.
by Dargon
Tue Feb 05, 2008 7:15 pm
Forum: Asexuality
Topic: Poston and Baumle 2005
Replies: 20
Views: 7684

Re: Poston and Baumle 2005

pretzelboy wrote:...I see that a lot of people seem to believe that they are born asexual and that sexual orientation for everyone is something people are born with (despite the fact that there is conclusive proof that this is wrong).


Source please?
by Dargon
Sun Feb 03, 2008 5:08 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why not have sex?
Replies: 25
Views: 8577

Re: Why not have sex?

70thousandfathoms, While the term "repulsed" does carry connotations, let me stress that it is not anti-sexuality, nor does what you have said sound anything like anti-sexuality. I personally wuld define a "repulsed" asexual as someone who doesn't want anything to do with sex, an...
by Dargon
Thu Jan 31, 2008 4:23 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Labeling: Descriptive vs Prescriptive
Replies: 31
Views: 12211

Re: Labeling: Descriptive vs Prescriptive

I like the post-it metaphor people. It's awesome. And I totally agree that labels are best used for descriptive purposes, and may be harmful when taken prescriptively... Now then, onto a couple very different points. This is pretty much saying something I have always said. I used the term "def...
by Dargon
Tue Jan 29, 2008 7:23 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Why not have sex?
Replies: 25
Views: 8577

Re: Why not have sex?

I think Gadfly said it all with the comment about binary thinking. We all know how broken the common statement "if you are not for us, you are against us" is. I tried writing more, but I was just talking in circles. I can't put it any better than Gadfly One other thing there Mr. Paradox. I...
by Dargon
Mon Jan 28, 2008 5:46 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Labeling: Descriptive vs Prescriptive
Replies: 31
Views: 12211

Re: Labeling: Descriptive vs Prescriptive

This is pretty much saying something I have always said. I used the term "defining" rather than "perscribing," but I pretty much said the same thing. An analogy I used many times at AVEN was the box example. It seemed appropriate, as the anti-label crowd often uses the phrase &qu...
by Dargon
Mon Jan 28, 2008 5:22 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationships vs relationships.
Replies: 40
Views: 14604

Re: Relationships vs relationships.

First off, KAGU (it feels weird to call people by their not-AVEN name) has pretty much covered all the stuff on oxytocin, so there is no need for me to go over that, though I would be interested in finding out how much of it courses my own veins. I once read (don't remember the source) that being ov...
by Dargon
Sun Jan 27, 2008 8:03 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 33650

Re: The rest of your identity

Shockwave wrote:Dargon, keep in mind that Stoicism is a path rather than a fixed point. If you want I can recommend some excellent books about Stoicism as it applies to our time.


No thanks. I follow a somewhat different form of stoicism, and my motives are probably quite different than yours. Thank you anyway.
by Dargon
Sun Jan 27, 2008 7:37 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 33650

Re: The rest of your identity

Aside from the odd weather, what's to hate about Texas?

<-lifelong Texan
by Dargon
Sun Jan 27, 2008 5:02 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)
Replies: 29
Views: 12646

Re: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)

...I love playing with people's hair... I learned to french braid a few months back and have fallen in love with braiding peoples hair. Unfortunately, since french braids are worn primarily be women, and I'm a man, the desire to braid someone's hair tends to carry connotations (though not necessasa...
by Dargon
Sun Jan 27, 2008 4:56 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 33650

Re: The rest of your identity

...I strive for stoicism... Strive for? Strive for, yes. I was once almost there but made the foolish mistake of getting attached to people. It has done more harm than good and I would like to go back to the stoic state I was once near achieving. Unfortunately, while back then I had nothing to lose...
by Dargon
Sun Jan 27, 2008 4:54 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 19838

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

And yes, Jessamyn... I'm fed up of saying that too. I've never been told I'm not a 'real' asexual before I came back to aven in the summer... and never so much as I have done in the past month - just when I'd exerienced things to make me most certain of it. :roll: Has it really gotten to that point...
by Dargon
Sun Jan 27, 2008 4:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boundaries
Replies: 14
Views: 3923

Re: Boundaries

For the most part, however, my only real "boundary" is moreso a rule than a boundary, and it applies to all my relationships. That people not be pushed past their comfort zones. I am not saying comfort zones should not be experimented with, but that they be respected. Comfort zone can be ...
by Dargon
Sun Jan 27, 2008 11:59 am
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: The rest of your identity
Replies: 90
Views: 33650

Re: The rest of your identity

I'm not sure I really consider things I believe or enjoy as being part of my identity, I am who I am. None the less, to entertain you question, I am deist, I strive for stoicism, I like gaming and stuff. There's tons of other crap, but that seems to be the most prevelant in either appearance or in w...
by Dargon
Sat Jan 26, 2008 8:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Poly
Replies: 51
Views: 33767

Re: Poly

Ok, my views. Now I have trouble differentiating the types of love. There are people I love, some differently than others, and some more than others. I find it odd, however, that while we can love many family members and many friends, we can only love one person romantically. It was somethiing I use...
by Dargon
Sat Jan 26, 2008 8:41 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)
Replies: 29
Views: 12646

Re: Sex on TV [...and in books] (Adult Content to be expected!)

Just another person echoing in that unnecessasary sex scenes (ie those thrown in because hey, sex sells) are rather, well, unnecessasary, but if they are done right, they can do wonders for plot and character development. I've even seen comedic sex/nudity that was downright brilliant. Additionally, ...
by Dargon
Sat Jan 26, 2008 8:32 pm
Forum: Sexuality
Topic: enjoying sexuality asexily
Replies: 41
Views: 19838

Re: enjoying sexuality asexily

I am in a rather odd boat on this subject. I have recently realised that what it is that "turns me on" is other people being "turned on." I still do not feel sexual attraction, but would be quite capable of enjoying a sexual relationship. Anyhow, I would like to echo both Jessamy...
by Dargon
Sat Jan 26, 2008 8:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is Blood thicker than Water?
Replies: 26
Views: 10137

Re: Is Blood thicker than Water?

Aside from my sister, I could happily never see my family again. In all honesty, I do not love my parents. I have some respect for them both, but I do not love them, as I quite honesly feel they are incapable of accepting who I actually am. Yes, they "guilt" me with the "blood" t...
by Dargon
Sat Jan 26, 2008 8:01 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boundaries
Replies: 14
Views: 3923

Re: Boundaries

In the brief time between by departure from AVEN and my arrival here, I did a lot of thinking on subjects such as this one, and came to some interesting conclusions concerning my on beliefs. In this particualr area, I have come to the conclusion that monogomy being "right" or "moral&q...
by Dargon
Sat Jan 26, 2008 7:43 pm
Forum: General Discussions and Fun
Topic: Who are you?
Replies: 94
Views: 27851

Re: Who are you?

Dargon from AVEN here. Name should make it obvious, it's a moniker I tend to use unabashedly. So a friend of mine heard from a friend of hers on LiveJournal that there was this new forum for asexuals where a main point was "we gonna talk about sex." I decided to check it out, especially si...