Vivaldi Ives wrote: **All of the above is just my personal opinions and I am not looking to start a fight with anyone**
Don't worry Viv.....we are not snowflakes here..which probably explains why so few avenites come over
The lgbt association is, I agree with you, an online numbers boost but a real world block for many in accepting what and who we are as all they see is lgbt
As to others accepting us, I was in the carribean one year for work and had some down time so went to the bar. A young couple were getting married and the mother of the bride was on her own..i.e. no partner. Later on in the evening a group of mixed people, wedding and non wedding were at the bar and I wished the young couple well and congrats for the wedding, we got talking and at some part drunk mum appeared
It got round as it does, you here with someone? I replied no as I was single (my work was none of their business) anyway we had some laughs and giggles and at some point the drunk mum said you got no one then? I explained no but also explained the difficulties in maintaining a relationship whilst being asexual. The wedded couple "got" Asexuality but the drunk mum could not get her head around it. After a few more wines for her she stood up and said infront of more people than I think she knew was there, said "your telling me if I stood infront of you f*cking naked you wouldn't want to f*ck me?"
I must admit her daughters face was one I wish I had taken a photo of as the shock simply was a picture in itself followed by a loud "MUM!!!!!"
I explained whilst I find you attractive mam, I do not find anyone sexually attractive so whilst the offer is very flattering, my answer would be no.
The next morning sore of head I saw the lady at breakfast, I'm not sure which made her more embarrassed, her being drunk and loud or sexually less than discreet.
The long story is to highlight..we can remove the lgbt from our arena, we can remove sexuals from our arena but at some point we will still have some question what and who we are and on that point I've always said ....we should not expect others to believe us but simply lay our cards on the table, explain in as simple and least confusing way and hope more get it than do not.
Whether they accept it or not should not worry us, it is us and only us that needs to believe
as to the "onlines " faking it..there are probably more than we care to admit but the most incorrect are sexuals desperate to belong to something rare so do what they do just to feel special. In Aven right now, I would say real asexuals are about 0.1% of the forum.
The sex ed thing and lots of sex is just the anti part really....if you think of an atheist website, their biggest topics will be ....religion..but I also suspect sex is such a heavy subject base due to the average age of avens main users, most are virgins or of an age that experience would not be there.
I favour keeping the sexual allies and partner section as I remember just how many asexual/sexual relationships there are...in fact I think asexuals who have relationships tend to be with sexuals. Whilst I do get fed up of some claiming to be asexuals then claiming that is why they do not have sex with their sexual partners (hogwash), it has proved an invaluable section particularly with sexual partners .
It is no surprise I would like to see the entire
"identities section" shut down..as to too much sex talk, I have to say this is the admods fault in a way. They have too much of their volunteer time taken up reading every post in their forum, personally I'd like to see more member pier inputs with less snowflakery and then the mods could police visibly but also move a lot of the threads that wander away from their intended section.
If we are to move forward then we need to stop doing the usual minority moaning of demanding we be treated as equally as the majority, understand we will be valued more by honesty and promote our group as genuine people who apart from one single difference, are not different at all.
Be interesting to see what others say if they haven't fallen asleep reading this post