jmb wrote:I thought we were talking about the specific event that happened in March/April/May (yes, some threads went on into May) on AVEN. So, the information/proof you request has already been provided elsewhere in this thread.
No we were not. I was asking for evidence for your assertions that
(1) AVEN says "We're first and we're the best and the rest of you STFU." or that 'AVEN is "The Best Site" and it should be the "only" Asexual site out there',
(2) people were "ridiculed and attacked" for going to other asexual sites and then coming back to AVEN.
But I wouldn't bother. You won't find evidence for the first. I sincerely doubt you'd have more luck on the second either, but who knows.
KAGU143 wrote:I think the biggest reason that AVEN *seems* to be portraying itself as elevated above the other sites is due to DJ. He refuses to even set foot (figuratively) into any of the other asexual sites. Why is that?
I spoke to DJ about apositive among other things the first time I met him in person, back in 2011. He seemed interested to know what was going on here. The overwhelmingly most likely reason he has never made an account is that he wouldn't have time to participate in many discussions. (After all, he doesn't have time to participate in many AVEN threads these days.) I'm sure if he'd known you saw it as important for him to make an account, and perhaps an intro post, even if he didn't have time to participate further, he'd have done so.
I don't know about discussion forums but has he ever participated in asexual *projects* that others have started? Absolutely. Examples that spring to mind:
[*] Hot Pieces of Ace - a video collaboration project, started on AVEN but not by him; I'm sure his participation for a time was a boost to the project,
[*] Asexual Awareness Week - a project started by Sara Beth Brooks (who has an AVEN account but is rarely on there); he has most certainly thrown his weight behind this one,
[*] WorldPride 2012; he took the time out of his busy schedule to fly all the way to London for WorldPride; you can imagine what a boost this was for me and others involved in making WP 2012 happen.
And probably many more.
DJ distinguishes between the asexuality *movement* and the *community*. All of the above projects are primarily movement not community projects, though there is some overlap. It seems to me most of his public participation these days is in the movement not the (at least online) community. (He does go to SF meets still.) That to me is the most likely reason he doesn't join other online communities such as apositive. It's a matter of not having time for everything and thus narrowing his role so that he is still able to have a role in asexuality.
Could you see his involvement in the above projects as promoting his own interests? Of course. But there is nothing wrong with liking the limelight, and by participating he is bringing benefit to others as well. I don't ask people for sacrifices. If everyone wins, I'm more than happy with the situation.