A Hello, A Thank You, and a Little About Myself

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l_chaim29
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A Hello, A Thank You, and a Little About Myself

Postby l_chaim29 » Fri Jan 01, 2010 8:12 pm

Hello!
I want to start of by thanking everyone who is a part of this website, as I think it is a wonderful idea. Although I do not identify as !00% asexual, I have been darn close to it for quite a few years now, and I think that this site is much needed given the difficutlies of those people who feel alienated from most people's huge interest in having sex. (I myself at least have found it very difficult, for example, to be emotionally intimate with others, given the fact that this usually means for the others that they want to "take it to the next level".
As for a little information about myself, I'm currently 27 years old, and reside in Charlotte, N.C. I identify as bisexual, but as one who is very close to being asexual. Without getting into a bunch of details that might be unneccessary in this brief introduction, I will just say that it is hard for me to say which sex I am drawn more torwards for the following reasons: 1.) I very seldom actually desire to have sex with anybody (unless you count pornography or fantasies in one's own head as being "somebody"), and 2.) It always seems to depend so much on so many different factors, such as who I currently know, how attractive I think they are in general, what their personalties are like relative to my own, etc...
I have to admit that, although I have known about the asexual community for some time, I have been reticent to having much to do with it until now. I guess part of the reason has been that I don't count myself as being 100% asexual, and so I don't perhaps have as much reason to be interested in the topic as those who are asexual; however, I also wanted to take at least a few years of trying to figure out who I really am sexually (and, particularly, making sure that I'm not largely disintersted is sex due to repression, or other personal problems. After having spent many years with very little sexual interest though, my interest in the topic is renewed, and I think its a good time for me to get to know others who are similar to myself regarding a mutual lack of average interest in sex.
Thanks again for all those who make this site possible. I look forward to communicating with you guys and gals, and to taking advantage of much that this site has to offer. :)
--Chris

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Re: A Hello, A Thank You, and a Little About Myself

Postby Dargon » Fri Jan 01, 2010 10:06 pm

Hello and welcome. Hope you like it here.

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Re: A Hello, A Thank You, and a Little About Myself

Postby Puppy » Sat Jan 02, 2010 2:50 am

Welcome, Chris. :D
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Re: A Hello, A Thank You, and a Little About Myself

Postby KAGU143 » Sat Jan 02, 2010 8:27 am

Welcome to Apositive, Chris.

It isn't uncommon at all for asexuals (or near-asexuals) to find that their attractions to others are based more on personality than plumbing. 'Nothing wrong with that in my opinion.
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Re: A Hello, A Thank You, and a Little About Myself

Postby Olivier » Sun Jan 03, 2010 3:00 pm

KAGU143 wrote:It isn't uncommon at all for asexuals (or near-asexuals) to find that their attractions to others are based more on personality than plumbing. 'Nothing wrong with that in my opinion.

Of course, it isn't uncommon at all for sexuals to find that their attractions to others are based more on personality than plumbing, either. ;)

And even in the purely sexual sphere, it's not at all usual for sexuals' strength of desire to act on their perceptions of sexual attractiveness to be almost totally based on personality, too.

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Re: A Hello, A Thank You, and a Little About Myself

Postby Salianna » Thu Jan 07, 2010 1:34 pm

Hi There,

Welcome to the forum. I am also new here. I am still discovering my sexuality and like you, cannot say which sex I which to partner with, given my lack of sexual attraction. It's a dilemma to which I can see no easy answer right now, except to keep an open mind.

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Re: A Hello, A Thank You, and a Little About Myself

Postby apsaf » Fri Jan 29, 2010 5:47 am

Hi Chris,
I think I'm like you in many ways. I don't think I fit in anywhere regarding attraction based on sex or gender. I do see beauty in people of different sexes and genders, but I've never felt sexually or romantically attracted to them. So, I guess I don't know either.

The most amazing thing I've found in the asexual communities is that they allow you not to restrict yourself within the labels. I'm so tired of trying to figure things out and trying to see whether there's anything wrong with me. I think it's high time I accepted who I am (with whatever label I feel comfortable with) and just live the way I see fit, not according to the others' evaluation of fulfillment and happiness.

BTW, even if you have a sex drive but don't experience sexual attraction, you can still identify as asexual (I'm not trying to tell you who you are, just trying to save you the headache of doubts, because, from your introduction, you seem to me like many people here and on AVEN, who identify as asexuals or even demisexuals)

And hello to stepclienk, as well. :)