ghosts wrote:I find it interesting that you'd put your kids in the "Relationship" category, though. The impression that I've gotten from some other people in this thread and elsewhere is that they wouldn't quite fit in that category.
Well kids probably deserve a category of their own, because what you feel towards them really is unique - while the love is similarly unconditional as for a romantic partner it's far more protective. With kids, dependency isn't the negative that it is with a partner. But there are two reasons I felt perfectly comfortable putting those relationships in the "R" box.
The first is the fact that my relationships with my kids share that unconditionality - that total depth - that I share with my wife. There's a similar degree of trust, disclosure, shared humour and respect, and probably an even greater degree of solidarity - all things that make an "R" relationship for me.
Secondly, I think that sex has precisely nothing to do with differentiating relationships from Relationships. It's easy to feel a deep connection without sex, and even easier to have sex without a deep connection. While sex may be an important part of many adult Relationships, it's just not a defining characteristic for me at all, so there's not the barrier to including kids that some might feel.