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The rest of your identity

Postby Shockwave » Sun Jan 27, 2008 11:46 am

I'm curious about groups or ideas other than your sexual orientation that are a part of your overall identity.

There are two that are very prominent in my life. The first is the Deaf/signing community. I've been using ASL for nearly 10 years now and have become quite fluent. I'm not as involved in the community as I would like to be at the moment but I'm working on changing that.

The second one is Stoic philosophy. There's not really a coherent Stoic community out there, we mostly just study on our own and once in a while we find someone else who thinks the same way.

So, what about you. What are some of the other facets of your identity?

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Jessamyn » Sun Jan 27, 2008 11:49 am

I'm a knitter, a mathematician, and a musician. all of which are far more prominent aspects of my identity than my asexuality.
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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Placebo » Sun Jan 27, 2008 11:58 am

I'm a female scientist--those are both parts of my identity. I'm a student. I'm from the west US, that's actually part of my identity because right now I long for the mountains. Other than that, many of the core components of my character revolve around things that I'm not--asocial, a-religious, asexual.

And of course there are all subgroups that I'm involved in--I'm a daughter and a sister and a niece in my family. . . a friend/component of a friendship group in several different cliques. . . .a member of various clubs and classes and other grouplets.
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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Dargon » Sun Jan 27, 2008 11:59 am

I'm not sure I really consider things I believe or enjoy as being part of my identity, I am who I am.

None the less, to entertain you question, I am deist, I strive for stoicism, I like gaming and stuff. There's tons of other crap, but that seems to be the most prevelant in either appearance or in what I beleve is relevance to your question.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Spooky » Sun Jan 27, 2008 12:20 pm

I have lots of identities, I'm a bit of a mishmash.
I'm an industra-romanti-period goth, a gamer, a bit of a 'shipper', a philosopher and a researcher of everything that has potential to be macabre or interesting in that kind of fashion. I'm a shopaholic big time too. A visual-kei fan. I live on eBay.
All of my identities are very seperate and each is a large portion of my life, yet all add up to create me. :)
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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby xaida » Sun Jan 27, 2008 12:49 pm

There are some categories I seem to nicely fit in. Im vegan and animal rights activist, Im a full-time aunt and a long-term student with all the clichés going along with it. Im a Berliner, which appears to me very different to a German. Im a female technician, which I find pretty attractive about myself ;) Ive live abstinent from alcohol and drugs for over 12 years. And I wear black always. Is that a category? Anyway, its part of my identity.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby KAGU143 » Sun Jan 27, 2008 1:12 pm

I'm an aviculturist, a wildlife artist, a bird taxidermist, a gardener, a part-time rock collector, an avid reader of sci-fi and adult fantasy, and all sorts of other things.
I live on 3 acres in a rural area without paved roads or high-speed internet. (yet!)
I'm in a committed Relationship with a Texas (for now) man who I first met through AVEN, and we have appeared together on TV twice.
My other best friend is a bird taxidermist, also in Texas, and I met him through a taxidermy forum.
I love them both about equally, just in different ways.
The bad thing is: I'm half a continent away from them!! :wah:
The last surviving member of my immediate family is also in Texas.
What is the DEAL with Texas, anyway??

I REALLY wish I didn't hate the place so much! .... :roll:
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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Shockwave » Sun Jan 27, 2008 3:11 pm

Dargon wrote:...I strive for stoicism...


Strive for?

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Noskcaj.Llahsram » Sun Jan 27, 2008 3:17 pm

Apart from the whole asexual thing; I'm Canadian, bilingual, engineering student, introvert, gamer, riddle-ist, video gamer, airsoft player/marksman/gunsmith, film reviewer, open source supporter, anti-capitalism, pro-socialism, and a bootlegger.
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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Gadfly-in-Chief » Sun Jan 27, 2008 3:18 pm

The other major identity thing in my life right now I suppose is atheist unitarian universalism. But these identity things have a way of coming and going over the years. For decades, I identified as gay, but now I identify as asexual because it gives me a more nuanced and detailed and true way of expressing that part of who I am. I haven't held my job/profession as part of my identity since I ceased teaching 18 years ago. I have always been a bit of a recluse, and don't not feel I know myself aright if I don't spend some hours alone every day, so I suppose that fits. An amateur intermittent poet, surely. Who, though, really am I? Perhaps it is not possible to say more (or more honestly) than the human male who types these words.
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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Emmarainbow » Sun Jan 27, 2008 4:36 pm

I'm an artist, reader of literature, liberal, a student at Aberystwyth, a lax hippy, geek, an activist who needs to go and *do* something and one with too much curiosity. I'd like to add my love of dungeons and dragons, but I haven't managed to do enough of it yet for it to qualify! And I love port. And acting.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Karl » Sun Jan 27, 2008 4:45 pm

I'm an Englishman in the United States in an asexual marriage and looking forwards to the end of the immigration paperwork in about a year. I work as a prospect researcher at our local University, and in my spare time I design websites, watch a lot of DVDs, read graphic novels and science fiction novels, and adore my dog, Emma.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Dargon » Sun Jan 27, 2008 4:56 pm

Shockwave wrote:
Dargon wrote:...I strive for stoicism...


Strive for?


Strive for, yes. I was once almost there but made the foolish mistake of getting attached to people. It has done more harm than good and I would like to go back to the stoic state I was once near achieving. Unfortunately, while back then I had nothing to lose and everything to gain, while I still beleive I have everything to gain, there is a LOT to lose getting there.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Mysteria » Sun Jan 27, 2008 6:52 pm

KAGU143 wrote:What is the DEAL with Texas, anyway??

I REALLY wish I didn't hate the place so much! .... :roll:

Hahaha, what is the deal indeed. Yeah... I'm from Texas, actually, but I'm from so far west I might as well be from New Mexico, so it's not quite so bad. The boy is from north Texas though, so I get to listen to him complain about it all the time. We'd both much rather be in Japan!

As for my identities... Well. I am an amateur poet, a cat lover, a gay rights activist, a scary ghost-white gaijin future expat, a visual kei fan, a gothic lolita, a tarot enthusiast, a fan of House, Revolutionary Girl Utena, and most recently, Star Trek.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby spin » Sun Jan 27, 2008 7:33 pm

hmmm. . .

First and foremost in my life right now is being a university student. I'm in anthropology, but I also overlap with the theatre geeks.

I'm a nerdy girl--mostly a big sf fan, particularly cyberpunk. But I'm primarily a book nerd and not a gamer at all, and I rarely run into other women who share those interests.

I'm a huge historical costume nerd too, and I love to research/pattern/construct clothing. I would like to be more involved with the Society for Creative Anachronism, but I need to find the right group. And have more time and money. Meanwhile I'm mostly involved in theatrical costuming.

Most recently, I'm becoming a ballroom and swing dancer. That one took me by surprise, but it's a very fun and friendly community. And they're very physically affectionate :D

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Dargon » Sun Jan 27, 2008 7:37 pm

Aside from the odd weather, what's to hate about Texas?

<-lifelong Texan

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Shockwave » Sun Jan 27, 2008 7:49 pm

Dargon, keep in mind that Stoicism is a path rather than a fixed point. If you want I can recommend some excellent books about Stoicism as it applies to our time.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Dargon » Sun Jan 27, 2008 8:03 pm

Shockwave wrote:Dargon, keep in mind that Stoicism is a path rather than a fixed point. If you want I can recommend some excellent books about Stoicism as it applies to our time.


No thanks. I follow a somewhat different form of stoicism, and my motives are probably quite different than yours. Thank you anyway.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Mysteria » Sun Jan 27, 2008 8:43 pm

Dargon wrote:Aside from the odd weather, what's to hate about Texas?

Heh, the boy would say that sarcastically. :P

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby cijay » Mon Jan 28, 2008 3:42 am

I'm ex-pat Canadian teaching kindie in Turkey until June. The school I work for is really screwed up but I'm hopelessly in love with my 15 students. (I LOVE Istanbul though!)

My main communities I'm involved in while home is the Edmonton Interfaith Community. I volunteer at a residence for special adults, too.

I'm a big fan of live theatre - not the underground stuff, I don't understand it. I love the old musicals and a dinner theatre in Edmonton where the cast serves the meals in character. I love pro-wrestling, not as a sporting event, just more theatre and anyone who watches "reality shows" on telly or reads tabloid news has no right to criticise me for that LOL.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Olivier » Mon Jan 28, 2008 4:17 am

I live in a valley that in the 1960's was the centre of the Australian counterculture. Most of my days are taken up farming and fathering (we have three young kids), and trying to finish the house that I started building six years ago, and we've been living in for the last three. In my spare time I'm a volunteer for the local bushfire brigade and jazz festival, amongst other things. I've spent more years than I can count singing in choirs (although not since the kids came along) and I've performed many times (as part of a choir) at the Sydney Opera House, and at the opening ceremony of the Sydney Olympics. I've been a timber mill worker, mathematician, investment banker, animal rescuer, and software and web designer in the past, and I don't miss any of those. Instead, I hope that one day I'll be able to spend a really proper amount of time on political activism.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby KAGU143 » Mon Jan 28, 2008 7:08 am

Dargon wrote:Aside from the odd weather, what's to hate about Texas?

<-lifelong Texan


Well, the weather is a big part of it. I didn't mention it above, but I don't have the ability to sweat normally so high temperatures are very bad for me. That means that I am essentially confined to the house during most of the summer in Texas. Even at NIGHT sometimes, when the "low" is still in the mid-80's!! That makes me crazy ... erm, *cough* crazier.
I feel very exposed and uncomfortable in wide, flat, open areas with no cover. That includes most of the parts of Texas that I am familiar with. Most of the trees that I have seen there are sort of scrawny and anemic-looking. I know there are some mountainous areas in some parts of the state, but there would still be no escape from that hellish heat.
I also have an absolute horror of tornadoes which borders on a full-blown phobia. I don't care much for electrical storms, either, because I've had several close calls with lightning.

I am just SOOO much happier in cool, green, heavily forested, mountainous areas where lightning is odd enough that the weather forecasters feel a need to mention it, and where tornadoes are so rare that they make the national news - even when they don't touch down!
Drizzle and the occasional earthquake are known evils that I can deal with.
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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby ghosts » Mon Jan 28, 2008 7:41 am

I have some family in Texas, so I've been there a number of times to visit and I like it well enough.

As for other parts of my identity - I'm really into music, I play in a band, and this all takes up a good portion of my time. This is a big part of my identity, I suppose - I'm very much into a sort of DIY punk ethic, and this affects my approach to many different things in my life. Other than that, I'm really into animation & would love to actually try and pursue that to some degree once I have some more time; I love books, especially young adult novels, heh!; I love kites/kite flying/the idea of flying in general; and I'm also a gamer - primarily video games, especially RPGs. I'm not sure how much of a my identity these are, though. I'm also very much attached to Massachusetts (especially Western Mass), which is my home, so I guess that is part of my identity.

And then there are my friends/family, and the fact that I tend to dork out over talking about relationship subjects/relationship theory.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Mysteria » Mon Jan 28, 2008 11:44 am

KAGU143 wrote:I know there are some mountainous areas in some parts of the state, but there would still be no escape from that hellish heat.
I also have an absolute horror of tornadoes which borders on a full-blown phobia. I don't care much for electrical storms, either, because I've had several close calls with lightning.

Well, El Paso is one of those mountainous areas, and you're right it's no escape from the heat, BUT it's also much less humid than the rest of the state, so while you will sweat if you go outside for long enough, the sweat will dry fairly quickly, and much more effectively cool you down. We also have no tornadoes! :mrgreen: Or earthquakes, or accents. We do get lightning storms sometimes, though, and they're awesome.

I do love El Paso, but the rest of the state would drive me nuts, and I'm not even taking the weather into consideration here. Just the whole lifestyle... Wide open spaces, bigger is better, churches everywhere, and never anything to do... I'll take Tokyo any day of the week.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Gadfly-in-Chief » Mon Jan 28, 2008 2:15 pm

Olivier wrote:....the local bushfire brigade and jazz festival....


Pardon me if I enjoy processing that as a single entity.
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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Olivier » Mon Jan 28, 2008 2:43 pm

Gadfly-in-Chief wrote:
Olivier wrote:....the local bushfire brigade and jazz festival....

Pardon me if I enjoy processing that as a single entity.

You're pardoned :) In fact the jazz festival does good work for the bushfire brigade - when we organise outdoor gigs, it rains ;)

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby KAGU143 » Mon Jan 28, 2008 9:12 pm

Mysteria wrote:
KAGU143 wrote:I know there are some mountainous areas in some parts of the state, but there would still be no escape from that hellish heat.
I also have an absolute horror of tornadoes which borders on a full-blown phobia. I don't care much for electrical storms, either, because I've had several close calls with lightning.

Well, El Paso is one of those mountainous areas, and you're right it's no escape from the heat, BUT it's also much less humid than the rest of the state, so while you will sweat if you go outside for long enough, the sweat will dry fairly quickly, and much more effectively cool you down.


For me heat is heat. I don't sweat enough for the humidity (or lack thereof) to make much of a difference. I've had this problem for as long as I can remember.
It can be annoying at times, especially when we get our occasional hot days up here. Thankfully, they don't happen very often. I don't have A/C, so when it gets hot I soak my clothes in water and then sit in front of the fan.
It might look silly, but what the heck - it works! :mrgreen:
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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Parth » Tue Jan 29, 2008 2:46 pm

I'm intersexed (that in itself stems so very many things), I'm Pagan and I'm agendered. All of these play a very big part in my overall identity, and have really shaped my unorthodox view of the world.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby Omnes et Nihil » Wed Jan 30, 2008 11:27 pm

Parth wrote:I'm intersexed (that in itself stems so very many things), I'm Pagan and I'm agendered. All of these play a very big part in my overall identity, and have really shaped my unorthodox view of the world.


I'm amused. Without double checking, I think you're the first person to mention gender explicilty. I presume at least some people who've posted do identify in some way in terms of gender... probably several people identify in fairly conventional ways... but that aspect for so many people seems to go without saying. Identity-wise, it seems to be the stuff that doesn't quite jive with some dominant norm that people find relevant. How post-modern.

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Obviously on Jupiter, we are all gaseous entities, so this is a temporary form. But yeah, Jupiterian tree.

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Re: The rest of your identity

Postby spin » Sat Feb 02, 2008 12:41 pm

Omnes et Nihil wrote:Identity-wise, it seems to be the stuff that doesn't quite jive with some dominant norm that people find relevant. How post-modern.

haha, excellent observation. You really do have to wonder what that says about our society.