David Jay wrote:Urban Profile: David Jay, Asexual – Sexless and Satisfied
“For sexual folks, when things get more energetic and frantic like it does with back touching and scratching, it is moving towards sex. However in the asexual world, because there is no sex, when things get more energetic, it isn’t really moving anywhere and isn’t culminating in a sexual act. So if you don’t pay attention, the cuddling can go on for six hours and you don’t get any sleep. There is no natural conclusion point.”
That is the like the asexual equivalent of the boasting sexual male who pretends he can have sex for six hours or all night long. What kind of toxic unrealistic person thinks cuddling for six hours is:
3) Not emotionally and physically smothering the other party and leading to premature relationship burnout due to lack of personal space? It is like a candle, you can make it burn brighter, but the wick and wax will expire quicker also.
On a related note I found the exact same sentiment in a documentary about older involuntary virgins. Here is what Allen a 49 year old virgin said @26:43:
Allen wrote:Youtube documentary: Desperate Virgins(UK)
Holding her in my arms. And that is the moment that I realized a women's body was warm. It sounds silly, but I didn't know that before then. Because I never had a cuddle before. ... And that was fantastic. ... It was weird because I didn't want to be sexual with her. I wanted to carry on cuddling. I just wanted to hold her in my arms forever. ... It was so beautiful.
The sentiment is eerily similar. The context is that Allen was describing earlier how at age 20 he had his first semi-sexual encounter with a girl at a party. She closed the door, pushed him against the wall and kissed him. That kiss gave him glandular fever which left him partially paralyzed from the waist down. He tried utilizing prostitutes 8 times to lose his virginity, but couldn't get an erection no matter what and couldn't have sex because he was a nervous wreck. On his own he could masturbate though.
I just thought I would share this because saying you want to do anything with another person for 6 hours is very creepy and unrealistic and how it matches up with Allen who HAD a better case for asexuality than the majority of internet self diagnosed asexuals. For David Jay there is no excuse for his unrealistic perspective except that his perspective on everything seems to lack any grounding in reality, but for Allen I have alot of sympathy since he got a really raw deal getting a sexually transmitted disease that led to being partially disabled merely on his first kiss! The fact that he is emotionally clammed up, traumatized and awkward around women is totally understandable and that he would want to hold onto his first pleasant experience even though nothing lasts forever.
To me making such claims from a self proclaimed leader and media whore like David Jay makes asexuals look like unrealistic, emotionally undeveloped clowns who watch too many Hollywood romances, read too many romance novels and consume other forms of highly unrealistic escapism and combined with a lack of judgement and life experience make it seem realistic to have such fantasies of cuddling all night because it happens in pulp romance novels and sappy movies. I saw such sentiment or jokes from AVENites from time to time but to me it just seemed creepy and too much like neckbeard things.
How do others feel about the overbearing, smothering cuddle brigade and their bombastic claims?